magz wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
It’s not judgmental. Bonding is really important for early childhood development. I can’t imagine intentionally getting pregnant and not liking young children.
Yet it happens all the time.
Not liking young children is passe so many don't admit it but people do it.
Ability to relate to a particular young child is something very different from liking young children in general.
From my toddlerhood I remember I hated adults who "loved sweet little babies". I related to those who could hold a matter-of-fact conversation about something interesting. My way of relating to young children is based on their curiosity - for a very young child, everything is interesting. This is where we can form a bond.
My husband's way of relating to children is through creativity. It requires some minimal age, unlike curiosity that is present from birth.
I adore “sweet little babies” and am great with them.
I also am good at taking children (and those with intellectual or developmental problems) seriously and don’t use baby talk past babyhood.
Not all parents bond with their kids, so not liking kids to begin with could make that more likely.
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“The darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing.”
— from Four Quartets by T.S. Eliot
07 Jun 2019, 1:10 pm
