Hug avoidance theory

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http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/8511100.stm

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I use to hug my male friends but then I had to stop when I realized that everytime I did, I was giving them "the wrong idea"

Nowadays I'll only let certain people hug me.

It still makes me feel icky to be touched by them though

I don't like being touched.

I don't like women who want to kiss or "air kiss" you.

I don't like men who want to put their left hand around your shoulder and hug you while they are shaking hands.

It doesn't bother me, I like being hugged. However, I know that with some relatives I've never even heard of before and just met in person, I won't hug them for until I'm ready to. Fortunately I have relatives who understand that.

I at first thought the article pretty much a blanket statement to me, however, it does actually happen to be the case for some aspies/auties. Everyone is different. I'm trying to stop reading into things about this as a personal attack against me and realize that everybody's different when it comes to having autism/aspergers.

I do not like to be touched. Haven't ever been in a circumstance where I enjoyed it. My sister actually torments me simply by insinuating that she is going to poke or touch me...

I don't mind hugging people, but sometimes it can be kind of awkward for me.

That being said, I actually like being touched (no sexual undertones intended). It just makes me feel all warm and tingly whenever I'm being touched. I don't know how else to describe it, I just like being touched.

I like hugs by people that I know. Sometimes they don't think I like them eventhough I do, which is kind of opposite from the aspie norm lol. Eventhough I like being hugged, I do have texture issues when it comes to paper or getting dirt on my bare hands, among other slightly rough things. I also don't like touching dryer lint or cotton balls for some odd reason. I have to squeeze my hands (mainly my finger tips) or put them in water and wash them around. I also happen to have sensitive ears and it's hard to ride in other peoples' cars if they want to listen to music. I plug my ears to be polite but I think others think it's rude. I imagine these are only minor issues compared to some people on the spectrum. Anyways, back to the subject (lol): I like hugs.

I don't want a woman to hug me or kiss me or "air kiss" me unless she "means business".

I don't want a man to hug me or kiss me ever! Unless he wants his teeth knocked in.

Shaking hands for about two seconds is my limit.

If the President of the United States wanted to pump my hand for thirty seconds while putting his hand around my shoulder I would probably knee him in the nuts.

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I have always had a problem with touch and embraces. They feel invasive and even clastrophobic. I have never tried a hug machine; it might be different.

An observation: My impression of NT males is that they do not mind touch or jostling because of experience with contact sports. I knew of women who played hockey and they revealled that they had to get used to more physical contact in order to play the sport to a higher level, like the guys.

My knowledge of NT women was that I had no idea they enjoyed touch or embraces, as I never saw a lot of this when I was a child. Strange.

how about going in the opposite direction- other folk being uncomfortable when one hugs THEM? the few times in my life i have been hugged, it seemed to make the other person uncomfortable. and i never even ground myself into them, i would just [more or less] passively let them hug me, so as to not scare them.