I don't agree with the statements that keep flying around that it was like a scene from titanic, 1496 people died in the titanic disaster, so far a handful have died, no comparison, it's still a disaster and a tragedy but still...slight exaggeration.
I can understand your daughter's logic of not wanting to travel by ship again Oliveoilmom. Think about it if your bus crashes, chances are help will be with you fast and the only other dangers are things like petrol leaking and some dramatic explosion like in movies(not likely). Other cars crashing into the now stationary bus and causing you further injury etc.
Compare that to a cruise ship, that is at sea, sharks, icy cold water, risk of drowning, then you have the 1000+ people all scrambling for a lifeboat, people can get trampled and do allsorts of crazy things when their life is in danger. Then you have to consider how difficult it is to rescue people in that situation. A bus crash would be cleaned up within a few hours, the ship is still there days later and people may still be trapped awaiting rescue.
A few shipwreck stats;
July 10, 2011: An overloaded cruise vessel sinks in Russia's Volga River near Kazan, killing 122 people.
June 21, 2008: The Princess of the Stars ferry tilts and capsizes off the coast of the Philippines during a powerful typhoon. More than 800 die.
February 3, 2006: After a fire breaks out during a Red Sea ferry voyage from Saudi Arabia to the Egyptian port of Safaga, more than 1,000 people drown.
September 26, 2002: Senegalese ferry capsizes in a storm off Gambia, killing more than 1,800 people.
Incidents in the past 10 years from one small source, the reason the death toll is so high is I imagine not only due to the amount of people on the vessels but also the difficulty in rescuing people at sea, so I really can understand your daughter's caution even though bus / car crashes are more frequent.
As for the captain, yes it was wrong that he was on the first lifeboat but all that says about him is that he valued his own life above others and he will pay for it. Can you honestly say you'd stay on a sinking ship because that would be the heroic thing to do?, I know I wouldn't! Unless your put in that situation there is no telling how much you would panic and try to flee, I'm not saying it's right, just again I see why he left, self preservation and all that, he was probably on the first boat because he knew how bad the situation was and wasn't willing to risk waiting for a later boat.
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