27 Jul 2012, 6:40 am
DeathbyMonkeys wrote:
I also have a fear I wont be able to be independent. Independent woman are so great! I want to be like that. Specifically I am scared I won't be able to pay for myself, my college bills, and my medication. Never mind that I want be able to eventually have an expensive lifestyle (I mean like kids plus a lot of pets, plus an expensive Eco friendly house etc etc).
But the truth is that a TON of girls feel this way. I think for NT it's mostly that they feel this intense pressure to be perfect, and they dread a future of growing possible failure.
But you got your parents, and the Social Security Administration can help if you have any sort of mental disability. And scholarships.
And you know who lives by themselves right after school? Hardly anyone! If your going to college you have at least four years you can adjust to living increasingly by yourself (even if roommates can be a huge pain in the patooty). Seniors in High School often feel an overwhelming urg to get out of their parents house as soon as possible.
Going to places with friends on the bus or bike will help you feel more independent (and free!) so eventually you can do stuff like getting on a train yourself without freaking out.
This is how I'm getting used to traveling by myself, I hope it works for you too!
Thank you for your reply; you give good advice. The thing you said about the going to places, I actually did that yesterday; I was invited to go to the end of the Olympic torch relay concert in Hyde Park, yesterday. I went there with my friends and I had a lot of fun, and it did make me feel independent- despite the fact that I was always with my friends, and they made sure I got on the right bus home etc. But the truth is that a TON of girls feel this way. I think for NT it's mostly that they feel this intense pressure to be perfect, and they dread a future of growing possible failure.
But you got your parents, and the Social Security Administration can help if you have any sort of mental disability. And scholarships.
And you know who lives by themselves right after school? Hardly anyone! If your going to college you have at least four years you can adjust to living increasingly by yourself (even if roommates can be a huge pain in the patooty). Seniors in High School often feel an overwhelming urg to get out of their parents house as soon as possible.
Going to places with friends on the bus or bike will help you feel more independent (and free!) so eventually you can do stuff like getting on a train yourself without freaking out.
This is how I'm getting used to traveling by myself, I hope it works for you too!
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27 Jul 2012, 1:40 pm
