Feel that you will never get a gf or a bf?

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31 Oct 2011, 2:15 am

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The only relationship I had that went well was more of a very close friendship, and it was with another aspie. I don't get on too well with NTs who can't understand things I say or how I feel. It just gets me stressed out more and I have meltdowns a lot. I got out of that kind of relationship about a month ago because I couldn't get him to understand that I would need space, or that I couldn't pick up when he was upset. I doubt I'll ever have a good, healthy relationship with anyone NT. The only person I'm close to like that is another aspie girl who I met around a year ago and finally started talking to a lot.

yeah thats how it was for me last year my best friend at the time Cheyenne was awesome she was literally like the female version of me in almost every way our friendship ended because a mistake i made that got her boyfriend mad at me,course he never liked me anyway since me and Cheyenne were very close i had an Affectional Bond with her and i nearly committed suicide after 5 years of no suicidal tendencies because of her ending our friendship

it was a tough time for me it was in May

most N/Ts i cant stand especially girls but a few i can mainly the stoner girls because cannabis is a leveler it puts us all on the same level, breaks down barriers and allows me to actually get along with N/Ts and for some reason most stoner girls especially my Best friend this year Sara are really nice to me and even though they know im autistic they dont care about that they actually care about me for me thats pretty rare for me to find in people i have only a few friends like that

Interesting that... I can relate.

which part? lol

my friend Lexi is even nicer though, she is a bit more physical than im used to

Lexi just called me so we can argue about Twilight cuz she, being 14, loves it and i hate it
i claimed that the ONLY good movie Kristen Stewart ever played in was The Runaway's where she played a great Joan Jett and Lexi claimed her role in Jumper as the main characters sister and that she opened the door convincingly i was like how the hell can you argue that? hahaha

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03 Nov 2011, 2:16 am

Hey, I'd just like to say that I thought that I was the poster child for this and then I found my love *on this website* I'm not saying that it should be your aim....but definitely keep it an option open and put yourself out there. It is possible, Trigas and I are proof of that :heart:

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04 Nov 2011, 6:29 pm

Definitely. I'm just not what guys want. I've always had more guy friends than girl friends, but I'm not pretty, I don't care about fashion, and I never wear make-up. I basically have very little feminine qualities, but I'm not a tomboy either. I suppose I have what I think might be love (I have no way of knowing if that's what it feels like, and Mum seems to think it's just a "very intense crush" when I asked her about it) but he has no romantic interest in me--he likes another girl. He knows about my Asperger's but I don't think he ever really looked into it, but I'm even starting to consider that he could even be Aspie, after being certain that another guy friend of mine is for months. We've been best friends for three years now and I've just sort of accepted that nothing like that is ever going to happen with us. I'm just settling with being close friends and I'm happy with that, at least right now.

I think another part of my problem is that when I look for a boyfriend, I don't look for a 'hot' guy who I can go out and have fun with, or whatever it is other girls think--I'm looking for a serious relationship that I'll actually carry into adulthood. Of course I would want to have a good time with the person, but I wouldn't be messing around. If I ever get a boyfriend, it'll be with someone who I'm very close to, and they'll have to accept my Asperger's or I'll feel like they don't understand me.

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07 Nov 2011, 2:27 pm

I kinda had one dream where i saw my new friend on okcupid. but i don't know what it mean't. but it seemed real to me. something about this girl. i felt like i was with her. and kissed for the first time. what do you aspies think?

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10 Nov 2011, 5:10 pm

I am at a point now where i just think "whats the point." I mean, Who would like a 16yo Rail Obscessed Teenage Guy that has a social networking web page?

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13 Nov 2011, 12:17 am

I just let life run it's course.

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13 Nov 2011, 1:21 am

I can honestly say I don't really want one. Things may change someday, but for now, I'm happy to be alone.

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13 Nov 2011, 11:28 pm

I find it really hard to get a girlfriend because my biggest conversational problem is initiation, so I can't make myself walk up and start talking to someone I like, and waiting for them to strike up something with me isn't really working out. As of late though my libido has been significantly lower so where I once longed for a gf It's not really much of a priority right now.

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23 Nov 2011, 12:23 am

I doubt I ever will, but I was told that I probably will in college... Great now to wait till that actually happens... :roll:

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23 Nov 2011, 2:00 am

Well, I had one...but he broke up with me. :cry:

Didn't matter, he wasn't mature enough anyways.

But I think now that I've had one, I have a greater chance of having another one.

And now I know how to flirt a little bit better, so, look out world :wink:

The only thing is there is no way I'm gonna get an aspie and mormon......but this time I know that him being mormon is more important, so I don't get my heart torn to shreds again. :cry:

I'm gonna try again! Here I go......in 5(Tuesday) 4(Wednesday) 3(Thursday) 2(Friday) 1(Saturday)......singles ward. *gulp*

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23 Nov 2011, 3:42 pm

Yes it just isn't meant to happen for me.

I met this girl once in a creche and I had known for about a month and we were friends until one day everyone was all sitting round a table and this one kid said whoever you touch you love and she touched my arm and I couldn't believe it she loved ugly me. We swapped phone numbers and I never saw her agian. She has probs long forgotten me but seing as It was my only time anyone liked me that way without being sarcastic or taking the pi** I havn't forgotten her.

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24 Nov 2011, 12:15 am

I cannot see myself asking a girl out, its just not my nature, I'm too shy and unintrusive.

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24 Nov 2011, 7:54 pm

My friend has come up with this cunning plan, to get the girl that i like (Feeling is mutual) to say yes when i ask her out... For about the 23.8th time.

He will not tell me what it is....

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25 Nov 2011, 1:07 am

I'd like one, but I'm okay not having one. I'd have to be on some powerful drug to get me to do anything, anyway.

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26 Nov 2011, 8:22 am

I have never dated anyone until 19 and don't think I was missing something. I felt too young for it anyways, and well, still kinda feel.

I hope our relationship goes well. :heart:

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26 Nov 2011, 8:25 am

Grete wrote:

I have never dated anyone until 19 and don't think I was missing something. I felt too young for it anyways, and well, still kinda feel.

I hope our relationship goes well. :heart:

It may not go well. It may go well.

Either way, don't let it change you.

Otherwise it will have been a waste of time.

Good luck.

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