Feel that you will never get a gf or a bf?

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Nah, I'm actually entirely confident I'll get a girlfriend in the future. If not because there's a girl already who wants to be, then because every girl I've pursued romantically (and some that I haven't) have told me what a great person I am. There's been more than that, but I'm confident. And as we know, confidence helps.

I was very insecure a year or two ago, though. I overcame that through finding love and then experiencing loss. The two were related. She never loved me back.

i am the epitome of the stereotypical "Nice Guy" i am nice, caring, unassertive, and selfless(i used to have major anger issues before i became a pacifist and to not hurt anyone else i would hurt myself to release my anger) and i have noticed that women are hypocrites, they will tell you almost 100% of the time that they want a nice guy but given the choice between a nice guy and a bad boy they will ALWAYS go for the bad boy

Sometimes girls don't know who the bad guy is.

My ex (also known as scum) was a bad boy...but I was blinded by love and thought he was a good guy. It wasn't until he broke up and I learned stuff and I saw his actions for what they really were that I realized he was scum.

So, it's not always being hypocritical....maybe sometimes we just don't know.

maybe but most of the time girls are simply looking for a short term relationship, or simply a good time, im too uninteresting for a girl to be interested in me, i mean the only "bad" thing i do is marijuana and hallucinogens, im a Psychonaut(exploring my mind using mind expanding substances[i frown on the innacurate term mind altering]) and im a Stoner(i love the Cannabis Culture) and proud of it! other than that im extraordinarily boring

You're an athiest who does drugs....in my culture (church-oriented) that'd be a bad boy. My ex didn't do drugs or drink and he was a bad boy. Different cultures for different areas.

personality wise im the nice guy besides they the soft "good" drugs i use them spiritually except Cannabis because that is a social herb, it also helps autism btw thats why i use it, its a social leveler. its not like i smoke crack, or shoot up heroin hell no i don't even drink alcohol except when my mom lets me

Personality-wise......
Because people don't assume things from their actions....they just "know" someone's personality.
Drugs are drugs are unless medically prescribed or available at any supermarket in legally doses are illegal drugs.

it's illogical to generalize drugs and say that smoking pot is as dangerous as smoking meth. there is no comparison there, not to mention most pharmaceutical drugs are worse than most illegal drugs, and Cannabis has been an important part of human life since the dawn of man. recent scientific evidence, trials in mice, show that Cannabis cures most forms of cancer by causing cancer cells to self destruct. and most of the hallucinogens i use like Salvia Divinorum, Datura Strammonium, and Calea Zacatachichi are 100% legal in most places of the world including California, i have 21 Datura plants that naturally grow throughout my neighborhood so there are very few laws i break, Ethnobotany is one of my main hobbies, i have done my research very well.


anyway i just had to quickly defend my honor and dignity now to get back on topic i generally just assume im unloveable and that all im allowed is unrequited love because that is all i know, honestly i have never felt romantic love directed at me ever and i have accepted my position in life to only love but to never be loved i gave up on finding love a few years ago

It must be bad for you if you live in a country like Brazil!

if i was gay or bi i would probably be happier cuz my gay friends are always trying to get at me but i just can't seem to be able to

im also too shy but almost every girl intimidates me, my friend Sierra is always telling me not to be though, but its hard not to because im always so scared of socially messing up in front of a girl

All I know is that any substance that alters your mind so you don't have control anymore is bad.
Ya know...as long as it's only a few laws.

Well, if you assume you are unloveable...people will treat you that way.
The number one thing that is important is confidence.

I will not give up on love because (ok, I'm a little bit shallow...I've seen uglier and fatter people have relationships...sorry) but I deserve love just as much as anyone else.

If you make a mistake, then laugh it off. People make mistakes....if they don't, then they aren't human and you don't want that anyways.

Haha, I am learning how to be relaxed around guys online....but I still am only comfortable around girls/family irl for the most part. It's a process. It's learning and growing.

i love your optimism i really do, for me when i mess up it cuts pretty deep on my pride which doesnt help my confidence lol

Brazilian girls seem to think I'm the most adorable thing in existance or something. Can you elaborate on the "must be bad"?

Well, I've never dated anyone. Ever. Many of my friends haven't either, but out of my six eternally single NT girlfriends, three are from evangelical Christian backgrounds. I've never looked for a boyfriend online, and I have no desire to. I want to know for sure that he exists and/or isn't the next Craigslist killer, thank you very much.

Frankly, my eternal singleness bothers me. I feel about mature enough to try out a teenage relationship. But let me put it this way: only three people have definitely had crushes on me in the seventeen years that I've been alive. One of them was when I was like seven, two of them had significant developmental disabilities (there's nothing wrong with that, but I wouldn't date anyone whose functioning level was significantly different than mine), and the last was just a stoner who thought I was a "sexy b***h" (his words, not mine).

I'm 18 and I've never had anything close to a boyfriend. I have kissed twice because I wanted to know what it was like (not very pleasant in my opinion), but I wasn't in love with those boys so it meant nothing and I truly regret giving away a special moment to someone I didn't love. I have now decided I'm NEVER going to kiss anyone again unless I know they love me and I love them.
On the other hand, while I think I'm pretty good-looking and funny (I have enough self-confidence and all that), I'm still pretty convinced I'll never have a serious relationship because I always value my own feelings and wants/needs over those of others, including really close friends. I'm okay with this (being forever alone), I have nice friends and I like to go out sometimes but 75% of the time I'm basically a hermit. The only thing I really crave is sex, I desperately want to know how good that can feel (since I'm obviously a virgin), but a one night stand is not an option since I have issues with strangers and shiver at the thought of bringing some random guy home, into my room with all my stuff in it. So unless I find someone who wants a girlfriend he won't see very often I'll be dying alone as an old cat lady.

I feel the same way. I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend. I went to a dance with a guy because I asked him. No guy has ever asked me anywhere.

I think I scare guys away because I'm not interested in hobbies that most girls aren't in to. I run/exercise a lot and I'm not afraid of a little sweat/pain. I also love violent movies and video games. I'm extremely competitive and I think that also puts people off a little. A lot of girls I know seem to act purposely weak to get a guy's attention, and I find this pathetic. I guess I can come off a bit tough at times but I'll never intentionally hurt anyone. I'm also a biology and video game nerd which I am sure turns a lot of guys off. Honestly, I'd rather have my identity and interests than a boyfriend.

I have learned not to bother with love. I have a lot of goals to keep up with between varsity sports, grades, and my work. This really doesn't allot me time to have a boyfriend. If I don't bother with love and don't focus on it, I won't be heartbroken if I never get into a romantic relationship. I'm not saying that I'm preventing myself from being in a relationship but I'm simply putting the idea aside. As and Aspie, focusing on finding love would cause me to be a heartbroken trainwreck waiting to happen...again. This has already happened in my life and I'm done with the experience. If I find someone someday that would be awesome but I'm not going to count on it. I wouldn't mind staying single because I already have a lot of good things in my life. Trust me, putting love aside is difficult, but in my situation, it is very practical.