Feel that you will never get a gf or a bf?

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well people, the truth is, their is no truth. If you put yourself out their, eventually someone will like you that you like as well. You just have to prepare for failure, and to give a little bit of yourself to establish a relationship. As for the whole "competition" agruement everyone is having, competition of some sort or another is a part of the vast majority of people, so obviously many people view various parts and happenings of a relationship as a competition, perhaps in a vague sense, or unknowingly. It may not always be a factor, but usually.

I the competition factor is different everywhere. Not only from person to person, but also from country to country. And I totally agree with you on that some one is out there. I always remind myself that, with so so so many people on this planet, it is impossible that not one of them likes me. And if one person can like me, so can others.....

I feel that I 'might' have a small chance of meeting the right person in the future. I'm usually too nervous when it comes to these situations and I know no one in real life who has a lot in common with me. For now, I probably have no chance, but I could in the future. I wouldn't mind being single for my whole life, but I'd rather get married and have a family in the future.

I'll never get a boyfriend/girlfriend, because i dont even have friends now. so theres no chance meeting someone. even though im probably bi and even if im not ill still accept anyone because im lonely and horny (XD) so i should have better chances finding someone... but i dont. XD
and im ugly and fat and weird so nobody likes me YAY! XD
but seriously, i hate that. >.<

Wow, that's actually what I thought. But I learned myself that things like that just aren't true. why? well because 1: you see loads and loads of new people every day. I'm sure one of them could have loved me for ever, and I could have grown old with her if we had met and talked etc. I've seen at least 10000 girls of my age so...

And it's not just one person, no it's way more. For me and for you. I can promise you that there's at least one girl out there who will love you. It's not a question of IF you will meet someone who can love you, but does she get a chance to get to know you? Who knows..., but if you try to be yourself, and try to be open, learn to be open to everyone (not too open) I'm sure you'll get a chance. Starting, and having a relationship is really hard. You need to be devoted, amd patient. But there's no way you won't get many chances

I know many people who like strange people. And you do have a chance of meeting others. Trough school, or sports, or games. Trough family, at the gym or at the beach. Hell you can even meet some one you accidently bumped into at the mall. (worked for me although she's just a friend)

i like you on WP you seem nice im sure youll find someone

I also doubt ever getting one because I'm kinda ugly and weird. XD

I pretty much feel like that and I am a 23 years old male... I just can foresee me having a family, it sounds extremely unlikely, and I don't feel like having time for girlfriends either, so it is actualyl confusing, my mom gave me an ultimatum that I should get a gf this year, and that's quite frightening...

I think genuine confidence is hard to look like arrogance and it is actually a good trait (just wish I had it...)

I get very shy when speaking to girls... it's like a new side of me. I never even knew I was shy until I tried talking to girls I felt attracted to. And also here's my opinion on online-dating:
1. It's not real... Maybe if you talk on the phone with the person it could be better but I really couldn't imagine never meeting the person I consider my girlfriend.
2. It could be a scam, (as someone here mentioned) the person could be lying about their age, gender, etc. You just don't know.

Therefore I would never bring myself down to that level, it seriously just isn't worth it. At my current age it would be wiser to wait a few years before dating. Think about this: How many people find someone at age 13-16 and actually stay with that person their entire life? Not many at all.. I'd say less than 0.000001% of people. It's really not smart to be looking for a partner at this age.. I may get a girlfriend eventually, but definitely not this young.

I've had three relationships in my short life and I'm in the middle of a fourth; but I know none of the past ones ended due to my AS getting in the way.

That's funny. My first real relationship was when I was 7 (not kidding, we adored each other, truly) and I think it probably would've gone on for years if I hadn't moved away. Plus all of my relationships have been young, obviously, 'cause I'm only 14 now.

Erm... not where I live, certainly not if you have my social skills. Yes, you see lots of new people every day, but how many do you get to know? The girls here I could be interested in are all taken for the long haul (here, perfectly NT guys can be single for months, while girls stay single for approximately a millisecond - there must be several times more single guys here than single girls). Here, there is no practical difference for me between going to the pub, trying to socialise, etc and staying in my room in terms of starting a relationship.

Personaly, I dont see why people need to have gf/bf's. I have never had one and probaly never will. And I am not even 17. Of course some here hwo are younger have had some gf/bs and I have nothing against that.
I do not like to talk to people I don't know, and I can't seem to start or continue a conversation. It's not something I am proud of or upset about.
I like me the way I am, which is single.
I don't even have friends that are the opposit sex of me. It doesn't bother me, probaly b/c I am not public schooled.
Don't take me wrong, I am not against dating or such, I just don't care about it or do it.

i'm exactly the same except i'm a dude

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