Is there anyone who has Aspergers and is also social?

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I can be very social at times, with my family or cousins. I don't really have any close friends but I think I can fake it for a time.

I think it's definitely possible to have AS and be social. We're probably not the type of extroverted social butterflies that light up the room with our presence, but enough to get along and form relationships. I'm the type that stands by the wall at family parties and get-togethers.

I couldn't socialize if my life depended on it, or at least correctly. For my entire life I've been almost totally oblivious to social cues and how to direct conversations. It wasn't until I went to a specialist that I was able to even get a sense or make sense of it. Although I'm fine with my family.

I only have a few close friends, and it's taken them a lot of work to get close to me. Bless them. However, I can be cordial to everyone else. I am involved in a few extracurricular activities, where I am a leader and a team player. I've even been to school dances (even though I was very scared and practically clung to my date's sleeve the whole time). So I guess you could say I'm kinda social, even though I have anxiety.

USUALLY... Not always. When I need to, I do it; I don't always enjoy socializing.

It takes me a few months to a year before I can become comfortable with a person. People have often noted that i seem very withdrawn upon meeting me and later become this crazy, random girl. Eye contact is not fantastic any time during my knowing any person, really. I'm pretty bad at social cues and understanding when a person is trying to become my friend. You have to be very firm and obvious with me. I had a problem in high school where a girl thought i hated her because i kept ignoring her social cues involving friendship.

I'm pretty comfortable around my DnD group...

Sometimes I'm really outgoing and social I guess, but only with someone I feel very close to or very comfortable with, which isn't too many people. Other times when I'm around others I just find myself to be lost for words 100% of the time and don't know what to do.