Please help me i am really stressed..?

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I am a 15 year old male with aspergers syndrome.
recently i am feeling really stressed out and it makes me feel really sick.
I am in year 10, and in Australia its the year where we get our school certificate. so i have to do really well. and i only just pass or i fail. I cant control my anger and can get violent.
at the moment i am starting my second week of the school holidays and they last for 2 weeks.
and about a month ago a kid in my class stole my calculator and claimed to the teacher it was his. i got up and went to take it back and he threw it off the desk. which made me really angry so without thinking i picked up a chair threw it and it almost hit the teacher. then threw another one and destroyed my friends laptop (which we got for free from the government).
Now i highly regret this and have not told my parents.
the deputy principle has spoken to me and said it will most probably cost me $350 because it was not *accidental* and was on *purpose*.
I feel really stressed because of this. and on top of that.
i hate PE gym. the teacher forces me because it is the law in australia.
i didnt show for a detention for not bringing uniform so the teacher spoke to me outside.
when i came back in my chair had been stolen and my bag was thrown about 2 metres from where i had put it.

This made me so mad i ran out of the class. the deputy took me to the school counselor. and then i was calm. when i went home i saw that my bathroom window was open which i told my dad not to do because of my fear of bugs and spiders etc.
So i kicked the window and it smashed. it will cost about 450 dollars but they will probobly pay for it.
but when they find out about the laptop incident i will be in loads of trouble.

*i cant enjoy my holidays because of these obsessive thoughts and i feel really sick and stressed. and i fear all the stress will cause serious problems.

Please tell me ways i can calm down a little bit and remove the stress.
Please help me i cant stand living like this any longer....

if you have a confirmed diagnosis it will help at ur skool it did for me, you may not have to do pe and you just need some methods of coping from a psycologist things like breathing and fiddling with an object that is calming, try rescue remedy spray, as for the sc try a different method of constant revision go to this site http://www.inspiration.com/Freetrial try this for mind mapping ur subjects, and perhaps speaking to the school about being able to step out of the classroom to calm down, trust me this will help im in yr 12 in aust so i know

I really think you should get anger management as soon as possible. You're only 15 now, but once you get older, the school counselling and sympathy will stop and you will start getting a criminal record.

Get help before it's too late.

In the meantime, avoid situations where you will be stressed out. Don't leave your stuff anywhere where people can nick it (f you have to, carry it with you at all times).

If someone tries to annoy you, force yourself to walk away and go to an area where there are a lot of adults (witnesses) so that if they throw the first punch/name call, you won't get the blame. That doesn't mean you are allowed fight back even if they do initiate it; you already have a reputation for violence in your school, so you need to be extra careful to avoid confrontation.

Tell your parents about the laptop and accept your punishment. Also accept any help they may offer you; chances are once they realise the severity of your actions, they may try to find ways to deal with them.

Lastly, there are books on the market and internet articles for anger management which may help you. Meditation and martial arts are also useful for learning self-discipline.

These things won't solve your anger issues though, and you won't be able to avoid every stressor in life, so it really is important to deal with the underlying anger whilst you are young, before it crystallises into an antisocial personality disorder.

i need to know a way of sorting this stress out without telling my parents and letting them find out themselves. and i am diagnosed but i need to find ways without a councelor or anything. are there any ways to not feel so depressed on my own

laxos3, I know how you feel. I tend to internalize things and not throw stuff like you, but trust me, I want to often. I know it is not fun when people do stuff to you and mess with your stuff, etc. but really, if you let them make you mad, they win because it is funny to mess with you. Are you good at acting, or do you think you might be? Either way, I would try to pretend that it doesn't bother you at all, and even be friendly to those doing stuff, because if it doesn't bug you, it may not be so entertaining to mess with you. I also know what it is like to not be able to talk to anyone, because they don't understand and don't "get" you, but keeping looking for those people, they are out there, if you can find a close friend, or a counselor of some kind, it may help you get through stuff with less trouble. Also, this may sound weird, but many super processed foods add to anger issues, more natural stuff helps to regulate tendencies. Not drinking soda and eating junk food nearly at all has helped me be way better in this area too.

Anyway, hope this helps a little. I feel ya bro, I do.

-sym