Need some feedback from Aspies between 14 and 22...
First of all, I'm 35 and wasn't diagnosed with AS until last year because no one heard of it when I was growing up. Even the professional psychologists told my parents that I was "acting out to get attention". I was wondering how life may have been more pleasant for me if I was diagnosed early so I could get help and my parents and teachers would at least know why I thought and acted the way I did.
I wrote a short fictional story imagining that I was born in 1996 instead of 1976. I'd like your honest feedback.
http://www.myaspergerslifestory.com/if_ ... _1996.html
Does it sound believable or just laughable?
Did I do an accurate depiction of what today's NT teens are like as well?
WDYT
Thanx,
Allie Kat
At first it was kinda, well, I don't know, but it didn't seem very real. You make it sound like everything worked out perfectly, and I find that hard to believe.
These two paragraphs I thought were very good. I couldn't have made a better description of what it's like in high school for an aspie. Heck, it almost seems as if I wrote that, especially the bolded parts.
When I was 15, my parents saw the problems I was having relating to **neurotypical teens so they enrolled me in Club Neuro, a social club JUST for youth from ages 14-22 with Asperger's Syndrome and hidden social and/or learning disabilities. Club Neuro was like a safe haven to me. We did all kinds of fun activities that were supervised by the staff who understood us *Aspies; we met 3 to 4 times a month and did a wide ranging of activities together such as bowling, hiking, and just hanging around the clubhouse and talking amongst ourselves. I ended up bonding with this girl named Mackenzie, who was a year older than me and also felt like an outsider at her school. We quickly became best friends, spending much of our weekends together, sleeping over at each other's houses, surfing the internet, watching documentaries (which we preferred to those artificial, staged reality shows that everyone else loved) , and talking about our dreams and goals. We both were PROUD being different from most of the other Paris Hilton and Miley Cyrus wannabees at our schools. We often wondered why those airheads were called "normal" while we were the ones being stigmatized for having a "social learning disability." We even started own Aspiegirlz website making fun of **neurotypical girls our age and their obsessions with make-up, clothes, texting all the time, and looking cool. Mackenzie and I both loved Club Neuro because we knew we could be ourselves there and were valued for who were without about being stigmatized; we "Aspiegirlz" ruled!
I doubt that I would enjoy going to a social club, but I could definitely see myself making fun of NT's in real life just as I do here on WP

Now, I'm sure you had a reason for doing this, but if you were born in 1996, there's no way you could be any older than 15 now. Which means you haven't graduated yet, and you sure as heck won't be going off to college anytime soon. That should be written in a future tense rather than past.
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Remember, all atrocities begin in a sensible place.
Read top of the webpage: For the sake of continuity, I decided to extrapolate the story to age 30 or the year 2026 in past tense just to make the story more complete. I made myself born in 1996 because I think AS became more mainstream knowledge among educators around 2000ish so it was far more likely to get a diagnosis at age 6 than if had been born in 1990 or so. Yeah, I think I made the early years a bit too sugary sweet so I may change it later on to include some more bullying as well as some adults who did NOT understand and thought AS was a BS diagnosis although they might have "known" I had it.
As for the high school thing, my real high school experience was 100 times worse; if you want to read my REAL high school experience in the early 1990s you can go to, http://www.myaspergerslifestory.com/my_ ... years.html
Thanx for your feedback
Allie Kat
I also wanted to let you know that I'm glad you liked my depiction of teenage life today because I had to really try to imagine what being a social reject might feel like in this day in age of the internet, cell phones, and reality shows (which all came into my world in my 20s). I About making fun of NT girls, I would have KILLED back then to have a "Jessica" in my life back in high school but back then I thought I was the only teenager in the world who thought and acted like me.
Last edited by AllieKat on 05 May 2011, 6:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.
That sounds very good although there are a few changes that you could make:
1. Facebook. When I was in 7th grade people started getting pages (this may just be a bay area thing) and for some reason having lots of fb friends in a status symbol. I was constantly making the mistake that people who friended me actually wanted to hang out.
2. Social skills groups. I went to a group for a very long time and there was only one other girl in my group. (we hung out a few times outside of the group) the boys were really disruptive and much lower functioning than us. Our therapist wouldn't tell us why we were there which Was real annoying. Then she would make us play really stupid games and somehow everything related to eye contact.
Yep: maybe I made the social skills class thing a little too positive because in reality, when I was growing up there was no such thing. Everyone said my problems were caused by "acting out to get attention" with no inkling that I really was just clueless. I really didn't know interrupting others was bad or why it was wrong yet I always got in trouble for it. After I read Michelle Garcia's Book, Thinking about You; Thinking About Me (see http://www.socialthinking.com/books-pro ... gory_id=14 ), I had these a-ha moments thinking how much nice it would have been to be taught these things in a class rather than always be yelled at and punished for being "stubborn and bratty".
I'm in the process of writing a children's fictional book about a 10 year old protagonist with AS and I think you're insights are all really good. I might even go observe a "children's social skills class" to see how they actually run. My book will be aimed at NT tweens who like realistic school life type fiction as well as Aspie kids who want someone to relate to. I think it will spread AS awareness.
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