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17 Dec 2011, 5:58 pm

I seriouslly DONT get why Asperger peoplez have trouble making friends ... ONLINE. I used to go to this forum for about 2 years full with NT kids, teens and i was very popular there., and a regular as well. The only area i had problems with Social Skills were "to be more nice" ... so why? its SO much more easy on the internet to make friends ... I deal with anxiety rather than awkwardness in real life.. and the anxiet makes me akward 8O

oh ... and this site doesnt count as one, since in here we discuss our aspergers and HFA.. :roll: also on the site i told people one of my disorders is just ADHD and NOT aspergers... its not that hard folks!



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17 Dec 2011, 5:59 pm

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I seriouslly DONT get why Asperger peoplez have trouble making friends ... ONLINE. I used to go to this forum for about 2 years full with NT kids, teens and i was very popular there., and a regular as well. The only area i had problems with Social Skills were "to be more nice" ... so why? its SO much more easy on the internet to make friends ... I deal with anxiety rather than awkwardness in real life.. and the anxiet makes me akward 8O

oh ... and this site doesnt count as one, since in here we discuss our aspergers and HFA.. :roll: also on the site i told people one of my disorders is just ADHD and NOT aspergers... its not that hard folks!


Also I go to a featured chat in tinychat.. and I am a Moderator in there and webcam... and i have aspergers



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17 Dec 2011, 8:02 pm

Easier...but not easy for everyone.
I guess for some sitting behind a computer typing the messages is significantly less daunting than talking in real life.
Personally, it is easier for me online, especially with NTs (not that I deal with many in RL)


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18 Dec 2011, 3:05 pm

aspie56 wrote:
I seriouslly DONT get why Asperger peoplez have trouble making friends ... ONLINE. I used to go to this forum for about 2 years full with NT kids, teens and i was very popular there., and a regular as well. The only area i had problems with Social Skills were "to be more nice" ... so why? its SO much more easy on the internet to make friends ... I deal with anxiety rather than awkwardness in real life.. and the anxiet makes me akward 8O

oh ... and this site doesnt count as one, since in here we discuss our aspergers and HFA.. :roll: also on the site i told people one of my disorders is just ADHD and NOT aspergers... its not that hard folks!


Lots of us don't know what to say in a normal conversation and what to reply to certain questions with. This means for some talking to people online (In an IM form, forums may be easier because we can spend a long long time working out what's expected of us) is still almost, if not as hard as in the real world :( .

Talking in IM is just like being on the phone for me, and from what I've read not being able to talk on a phone is a common trait for us. This might hint at more than a couple of us not being able to make friends online.


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18 Dec 2011, 6:51 pm

aiyyo welcome to wrongplanet. i hope nobody confuses us cuz i have a reputation and your name is similar.



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18 Dec 2011, 10:44 pm

I've made plenty of online friends. I'm much more comfortable being myself online, and as such, people get to know me better than in real life.


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19 Dec 2011, 3:01 am

I actually have a pretty hard time with online socializing. I'm very reluctant to post stuff and when I do it's usually just stating my opinion on certain topics, so it isn't actually stuff that actually allows me to socialize with others. At one point I was a moderator on a forum about a TV show but the only thing I would discuss was the TV show instead of the topics that would allow people to get to know each other. I don't really address people or send them messages so I never have any online friends. The problem, with making friends both online and in real life, is that because of my communication problems, the other person has to make the first move or external people have to help me. I generally don't rely on the internet for my social interaction because it's never successful. On most forums, there are those people who just ooze charisma and their ability to make friends online is incredible, and I will never be close to being one of those people.



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19 Dec 2011, 10:24 pm

SammichEater wrote:
I've made plenty of online friends. I'm much more comfortable being myself online, and as such, people get to know me better than in real life.


Same here.


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23 Dec 2011, 10:04 am

I think all my Internet friends are either aspies or mildly aspie/ADHD.


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23 Dec 2011, 10:08 am

I haven't had any internet friends in about 4 years.



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29 Dec 2011, 3:42 pm

I find it much easier to make friends on the internet than in real life. I'm too shy in real life and I get bullied and the only people who like me are those who I don't really feel comfortable around... shyness again. But on another site I go on, I talk to people and have made quite a few friends there. And they're really nice as well. :)



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01 Jan 2012, 1:28 am

yeah im the same way i can chat it up via txt... usually anyways... but when it cpmes to calling or in person im..well... horrible. to put it nicely



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04 Jan 2012, 7:00 pm

I have never made a friend online. I don't know how to.


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04 Jan 2012, 7:02 pm

I can type to people fine, but if asked to go on webcam with a friend will make up an excuse and if I have to go on, at least claim my mic is broken. Anything to avoid "real" conversation.



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05 Jan 2012, 4:12 pm

catatonix wrote:
I can type to people fine, but if asked to go on webcam with a friend will make up an excuse and if I have to go on, at least claim my mic is broken. Anything to avoid "real" conversation.


Don't have a webcam, I don't want anyone to start stalking me (cause, in my mind, it can and will happen one day...to someone). People also ask me to text them on my cell... So I tell them I lost it... Unless I feel close enough to a person... Like, I've talked to you long enough to trust you, close. Also, having a phone is pointless because I'm not going to call you in the first place. So, why do I even have your number?