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This post isn't from rightgalaxy. I'm her niece and she is allowing me to ask a question until I get my own pc and then I can register on wrongplanet. Well, here is my problem, I'm in the 7th grade and there is this boy that I really like a lot. He asked me out AGAIN and I got so nervous that I rejected him. I told him that I don't like wrestlers (he's on the team) and that he just isn't smart enough and that I like honor students. He got really upset. The truth is that I DO want to go out with him. I am crazy about him and I think that the honor students are horrible, cold and geeky. I really hurt this guy. What should I do? I thought of just kissing him on the ear by making it look like I had to tell him something private. I'm just SO nervous. He did push-ups in front of me. He looked just like a bouncing ball! My face went hot and I thought I would pass out. I'm so confused!! !! Sometimes I think that this is some sort of prank. What could he possibly want with me? Shouldn't he be chasing cheerleaders? But he asked me out 5 times and each time, I turned him down. My aunt thinks I look hotsy-totsy but I don't feel hotsy-totsy.
He even said that I look hot in my glasses. I thought I was being set up for a prank but he got so upset when I said that he wasn't smart enough that it can't be a prank. He actually cried. later, after he calmed down, he grinned at me in a real funny way like "aha okay for you". I want to tell him that I want to go with him and that I didn't mean what I said but I'm scared now. My aunt said that I learned a very valuable lesson and that is "Always say what you mean and mean what you say." She thinks it not too late. I think I blew it! I'm in such pain. please somebody help me. Why do boys give you such pain? Why does liking somebody hurt so much?

I'd listen to your aunt. If you like the boy then... why make it so complicated? I won't say "just don't be nervous" because things aren't easy like that, but you should tell him you like him too or something.

I don't know what else to say, really, I don't know well how relationships worked when I was that age, although feeling better about yourself could be a nice step. For a very small moment I thought of a pic to compliment you, but then I realized it would be grossly inappropiate . So believe your aunt I guess~

This is from Rightgalaxy's niece:

Well, here's what happened today. I told this boy that I would like to go with him and that I liked him and always would. He acted VERY egotistical and then flirted with some other girl.
Now, I'm almost glad I was mean to him before. I should have kept it that way. Now, I feel like an idiot. I don't think I want to date EVER!! I hate boys.

They grow up when you get to high school. Well... Some of them do.

Just hang in there and don't let one person our of 7 billion ruin your day.

I'm sorry that happened, especially because you followed my advice. Now I feel bad with myself

Things don't always go right, but you can always learn from them. Something I probably should have said, it's generally a bad idea to come out too strong, like telling him that you would always like him. But... that, and many other things about dating, you'll learn with experience. Are you an aspie btw?

Oh, and I understand how you're feeling right now, so I'll just say... it will pass . Now you're angry and stuff, but then you won't be angry anymore, and when you think about that kid you'll just say to yourself "not worth it" and move on and go in your merry way. And trust me in this, that's way better than wondering what could have happened if you had told him that you liked him, but that was one day ago and it's way too late, two days ago and it's way too late, three months ago but...

Failure weighs onces, regret weighs tons. Remember that.

I think that we should all wait until high school. It really bothers me when boys that I like just seem to like all the girls and are so self-centered. I think also that you should stay away from him because his pride got hurt and now he will forever abuse you. He won't forgive it because he is too immature and will never be able to beat you up enough. It will always be tit for tat with that jerk! He might not even get better by high school. Then it will be really worse and then he won't be just a jerk - he will be called an abuser. He'll never accept the word "no". He'll always punish you in some way for saying no to him which means that He will break all your boundaries and control you because he knows you want his love. We girls are all too greedy for love, guys know this. That's why they're able to hurt us so much. That's why we hurt each other so much too. Did you ever notice how mean a girl will be to you if her boyfriend thinks you're cute. It's NOT because you're cute. It's because they don't trust their boyfriends but they blame you if he cheats. They don't trust him but they can't and won't let him go either. How could anybody love a person who they don't trust? There has to be something wrong with this. The whole dating thing just confuses me! Sometimes, I think I shouldn't date at all because I get hurt really easy. My grandmother told me that my grandfather stayed with her for 50 years and told her that he never loved her. He had other kids with two other women. He didn't say that to hurt her. It was the simple truth. This bit of news DEVASTATED me especially when she said that she would have gladly given him a divorce if he had asked. She said that it is embarrasing to try to hold on to someone who doesn't want to stay. Well, anyway, he died, he left her nothing because he was a bum to begin with. Even though she's old, she has a boyfriend who is old too but VERY nice. I wish he could have been my grandpop!