18 Oct 2012, 12:49 pm
I'm in 8th grade and I have this boyfriend who I'd thought I liked VERY much. He tried to get me to go home with him on his school bus because nobody was home at his house. He's pressurimg me into having sex with him. I'm happy just kissing him and messing about with all the cloths on. I feel that is enough. I agreed to go to get him off my back because he was begging too much. When he came to get me and show me where his bus was, I turned him down and now he won't talk to me at all. If he really liked me, shouldn't he understand???? I'm not ready for sex and besides he told me he was VERY small and could not possibly hurt me with it. I've never done it before. If a person is very small, don't they need special condoms? I saw a regular condom in Health class and it looked really large. My boyfriend doesn't understand that I really would like to go with him but I'm afaraid of getting caught or getting pregnant. He actually tried to tell me his things were hurting! What does that have to do with me?! ! Maybe I should just break up with him. Everybody on his bus would have known why I was on it!! ! They would have called me a slut. Is he stupid or just doen't care? He was once in services just like I was and also in speech too. He was in a different school at that time. I'm trying to understand but I don't know if he's just no good or really not too with it. I do care. Even more after I found out he's a aspie too.
But maybe he a rotten guy as well. Please somebody help me a little bit!! ! 
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18 Oct 2012, 2:55 pm
Some guys will say or do anything to get a girl into bed. If he's pressuring you and then is mad at you when you say no, he doesn't really like you, he just wants sex. I'd break up with him and not talk to him even if he tries to talk to you. Guys who act like he does, lie to get girls in bed.
Don't ever let anybody pressure you into having sex. It's up to you when you have it, not anyone else. If somebody is pressuring you, then they are just in it for the sex and after the sex they will dump you. Sometimes if a guy likes you, he will try to talk you into having sex but if you say no, he will respect it.
Kick him to the curb like the dog he is. You can do much better than that. Make sure you let it be known that you dumped him, so that he doesn't start some rumor about you.
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18 Oct 2012, 3:50 pm
18 Oct 2012, 5:22 pm
But maybe he a rotten guy as well. Please somebody help me a little bit!! !
lmao this part made me laugh.
Anyways...I don't want to sound like a know-it-all, but seriously, if you're in middle school/beginning of high school, you're all just horny little kids. You're CHILDREN! LOL you're not emotionally mature enough to really need sex.
You're just curious almost-youths.
Never mind that Asperger's delays emotional maturity, NO one (generally speaking) is that mature in middle school.
That's why it's middle school.
Even normal people don't really have this kind of maturity till maybe grade 10, IF that. A lot of guys i knew last year weren't really interested in dating/women, though they did get teased for that. Just an interesting tidbit.
18 Oct 2012, 10:38 pm
