Why do people like to be alone at times?

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I'm not asking, "Why do aspies like to be alone?" or anything like that, I mean in general. Like this entire day, I didn't really feel like talking to anybody in school, even my friends. Yesterday, it was different, I was talking to everybody. Usually I like to sit downstairs, but today I felt like relaxing in my room. I'm not sad, I just feel like being by myself. Why does it seem like that we all need to take a break from people every now and then?

After I spend an hour or two talking to other people, I frequently go take a nap.

Spending a few hours around a group of people gets old once in a while.

Sometimes I think it is kind of strange that I like to have people near me as long as they are not too close (i.e. within say 50 yards). I doubt that I would want to live in a place where my nearest neighbor was more than 5 or 10 miles away.

I guess sometimes people need down time, to process things or to spend time doing things that they cannot do with other people, or around other people. For instance I like to write creatively. When my husband is home, I cannot focus so I choose not to write at that time. It is considered healthy to have a balance between alone time and being around people, but I find that I like to spend 80% of my time alone, and only a small part of the remaining percentage around other people.

It gets repetitive after awhile. It feels like no matter who you are with, you have the same conversations about the same, run-of-the-mill topics. Even for non-Aspies, it's exhausting to keep up a charade, especially in large social situations. Even NTs act differently to try to fit in, and it's really tiring.
Humans are social creatures but we need time to sit by ourselves and process life sometimes. It can't all be chatter and gossip.

I think it's just because whether you are on or off the spectrum, everyone just needs time to unwind.

In tune with the other guys on here, most people do need alone to process life and unwind.

You see kids in upper el and middle school realizing this, they overdo it to look cool, so awkward haha

I remember reading about Extraversion and Introversion. It was described as two different traits with introverts needing more space and being able to function better alone and extroverts being able to be around people for longer and getting most of their enjoyment from outside forces. I hope this is not misinformation as I do not have great knowledge on this subject. Please do take time to search this up so that you may get information more accurate and complete.

Everyone does this, and not just people with Autism. It's healthy to a certain extent, and it does relieve some stress. Getting away from some of the jerks in highschool, or heading to the breakroom to relax with a mocha is a retreat that is important. Sometimes you have to get away from the mean people or drama, and this is how people do it!

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I like to be alone pretty much all the time. I don't enjoy being with a circle of people as much.

I personally like being alone because I'm very sensitive, and whether it's through texts or physically being around them, other people's emotions effect me. It tends to just exhaust me, so I like to spend time by myself to sort of recover from it.