how do i stop saying "i love u"?

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This is a bit embarrasing but i'm 19 and i still kiss and say "love u" to one of my sisters. She is an extremely caring person towards me but when i say it i feel akward. I have 3 sisters, the 1 im talking about is 29 and lives with her boyfriend (who is like an older brother to me and i look up to him alot).

I want to stop but i just don't know what to do or what to say or should i 1 day stop doing it? ARGH

I mean, if i did do that then for the whole way i would feel very guilty (i guess that package also comes with me being a suspected aspie) and want to phone her and talk about it but that would be even more embarrasing just to say that.

I love her more than anyone because she always supports me and sticks by me even tho im a bit of a waster

Can anyone help me out? I mean imagine when i turn 30 and i'm still saying it..lol

Thanks

As long as you're not giving her a big tongue kiss - I don't see anything wrong with a peck on the cheek and an "I love you" from a brother or sister or parent.

I'm 40 and my brother is 38, and we can give each other a peck on the cheek, a hug even, and an occasional "I love you". Same for my sister, and my mum.

The trouble with the English language is we have the same word "Love" for quite a few different varieties of affection and caring.

I love you like a brother/sister
I love you like my dad
I love you like a lover/partner/spouse
I love you cos you helped me solve a particularily frustrating problem
etc etc etc.

I guess if you don't feel comfortable with the whole thing - you probably would have to explain to your sister that you still think she's the best, but now that you're older, showing affection just feels too weird. Maybe by the time you're 30 you will feel ok about it. Maybe you could think of a way of showing your sister affection that doesn't feel too weird like doing something nice for her or sending her an occasional gift or card that she'd like with your appreciation all written out. Hmm, personally - I find the quick peck on the cheek less awkward.

Very helpful thanks, wobbegong

Just like wobbegong was saying, be careful of how you say it. Nothing is wrong with saying "I love you", but if you say it in a romantic tone, make sure you mean it with all of your heart. In the same way, you can't dedicate "True Colors" by Phil Collins to just anyone over the radio.

You shouldn't stop saying it. It's important to tell your loved ones that you love them.