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tooyoungforthis
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04 Oct 2019, 11:04 pm

I am currently in high school, and I am talking to this guy I really like. He seems to like me back, but he doesn't really understand what I mean when I say I have autism (I'm a female with mild Asperger's). He offers to "train" me so I can flirt; it makes me feel like I'm somehow impaired or clueless. I also have strict boundaries for sexual behavior (I still haven't had my first kiss and I'm 15), and he teases me about it in a playful but also condescending way. He's a really sweet guy, but his attempts to help me interpret social cues are wrong-headed. How do I articulate this in a way that makes sense to him? Does anyone else not have much experience with touching?



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05 Oct 2019, 6:12 am

Maybe something like "I don't want to be better at pretending, I want to be acknowledged for who I am"?


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25 Oct 2019, 6:06 am

He seem bit creepy to me



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25 Oct 2019, 8:26 am

Tell him to read a book


However if you find him "condescending", it might be to your advantage to not date him


But he could have other good qualities that make up for it



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11 Nov 2019, 11:15 pm

tooyoungforthis wrote:
I am currently in high school, and I am talking to this guy I really like. He seems to like me back, but he doesn't really understand what I mean when I say I have autism (I'm a female with mild Asperger's). He offers to "train" me so I can flirt; it makes me feel like I'm some CDC how impaired or clueless. I also have strict boundaries for sexual behavior (I still haven't had my first kiss and I'm 15), and he teases me about it in a playful but also condescending way. He's a really sweet guy, but his attempts to help me interpret social cues are wrong-headed. How do I articulate this in a way that makes sense to him? Does anyone else not have much experience with touching?


Tell him you’re not interested and you appreciate him trying to help, but you would rather refer to your doctor.