Anyone else with rapidly improving social skills?

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My social skills are improving very quickly. In the summer of 2009, I only socialized when I had to, but in the summer of 2010, I made lots of friends. Now, in the new year of 2011, I'm doing better than ever. I have a very active social life.

Your profile says you're a diagnosed Aspie.

I think what you're describing is definitely possible. We can learn social skills through practice. Keep up the momentum and enjoy your life and your friends!

Mine are improving, but not rapidly. If I am to be a socialite, I ought put the dictionary definition of 'cool' into practice.


2 informal fashionably attractive or impressive : I always wore sunglasses to look cool.
• excellent : [as exclam. ] a computer you didn't even have to plug in. Cool!

I just found out that an alternate word for cool is fly! I shall never fully comprehend informal English.

Mine improved much later in life, and due to being in a religion and a job, where I was exposed to a lot of talking to a lot of people.
Having a special interest topic (religion), or having to talk for the purpose of my job, unlike normal small talk and conversation, comes a lot easier, so you therefore get the practice in too know how to talk to and relate to people.

I think most social skills have improved somewhat. That is, a year ago I had didn't have friends, and now I do. I think this is because I have less anxiety now.

I tend to think my social skills are improving, until I'm in an unfamiliar situation and trying to small talk and then I realise I'm still awful at small talk. Also, I've noticed that my conversation topics and the randomness of my NT friends when they're talking to each other vary.

Or, I just see a video of myself; there is work to be done on what I feel and what I show. Perhaps, a little less looking bored/depressed is in order.

I'm lots better than what I was like when I was little. But, take things like today. I thought I was making a real effort in my charity shop the last few months, talking instead of just reading in my breaks, and it wasn't that hard because they're all 40+ years older than me so they're kind, but the manager took me apart today and said "some of the people have been wondering if you're happy here...try to be more forthcoming! be outgoing!". She doesn't know I have anything like AS. But yeah, so I must look pretty sullen and antisocial when I think I'm being fine. I knew that already, but I thought it was different in the shop.

Nope! Mine have only gone downhill Although I do spend most of my life playing games in my room instead of talking to people.

Absolutely. In middle school and elementary and even early highschool I was known as quirky but now most don't even know I have aspergers (yes I was diagnosed at age 4). My friends view me as confident (with a tint of arrogance but thats debatable), social, intelligent and one who is the voice of reason and control in just about any situation. I still have hyper focuses of course and I hyper analize everything to a rediculous amount...I also study NT behaviour allot by observation and by google (lol) thats probably why, I find it interesting, frustrating, confusing but very rewarding that is to say.

Yes, everything except the meltdowns. (Which I think are my related to my anxiety than my AS, right now).

I had a big change when I was a preteen and also, in my early teens.

My parents say that Im improving. I still have problems introudicing myself to new people, but Im a lot better at recovering from bad moods and distrubances.