Unaccepting Mum

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So, my mum refuses to accept I might have Asperger's. My dad has it for sure, and my older sister and I are both self-diagnosed. I show just about all the symptoms. Yet my mum says that I am perfectly neurotypical. She won't even let me see a psych. to ask, nor will she let my dad do so (they're divorced, and there's some pesky clause in the custodial agreement about psych. visits). Most of the time I don't really care much about her disbelief. However, when things like yesterday's happen, I can't help it.
Yesterday, at dinner, my little sister said something along the lines of "Schere always does socially unacceptable things and you don't care." To which my mum proceeded to spend 45 minutes lecturing me about how "you are so smart, and yet so freaking stupid," and how my little sister is right and I am so entirely annoying to be around because I don't know how to behave according to most social standards.
What. The. Freaking. Hell. It's called Asperger's, ever heard of it? I was so pissed!
Lucky for me, my older sister just came down from college last night, so I got to ramble to her about our astoundingly neurotypical mother. Still, it hurts that my own mum would speak like that. Fine, let her not like to acknowledge that I most likely am an Aspie, but could she at least not comment on my social inadequacies? It does not help me at all to be screamed at for not fitting a social stereotype or clique when I'm in my own house!

If she's so confident, then she'll be glad to prove you wrong by letting you see a professional for diagnosis.

I understand your dilemma. I too have the same problem with my father. He refuses to see it in me because I don't show the typical symptoms, etc. It's hard, she could just be in denial or have a stereotypical view. Most people do, I prefer to just tell people I have a learning disability. IF I can be bothered I'll tell them what it is. If they ask how I can have a learning disability when I seem to have almost no flaw with both literacy and numeracy skills, and my speech is "well spoken"

Try getting her to tell YOU what it is. Let her finish, and ask why she thinks these stereotypical views, don't add anything. Work on the information she gives you. Maybe get a book and see if she can back up her information with the book(s)

Thanks, this helps! It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem.