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It seems that while I have trouble making close friends, when I finally do have one, I will either become annoyed with some of there own quirks while expecting them to live with mine, or for some other reason get tired of them. I find it strange that once my needs are fufilled, I become satisfied. Any input on that?


Also, I have a friend who I met back in August and go to school with now. He is probably the best friend I have had in a long time. We both enjoy each others company, but it seems as though sometimes I need him more than he needs me. There are some other people from his hometown that he is close to and I have become friends with them as well but since he has known them for longer, I see them as an obstacle to us becoming best friends. How do I seal the deal, if you will to move from good friends to a "bromance" (two hetero-sexual males that are pretty much inseperable, like Shawn and Cory on Boy Meets World).

Why don't you try making friends with people who have the same type of autism as you?

For the OP question, an answer based on my own experience but not necessarily generally valid:
(but if it is good advice, it probably doesn't matter much if the friend is autistic or not.)

Share your good friend's special interests - be more interested in what he is interested in than his other friends CAN be, and if possible, share more of your own special interest that your friend is already interested in.

Be helpful in any ways you can, especially if only you can be helpful that way, but not so much that you are being exploited. You can't buy good friends. You can't be a good friend's peon. Be interested in them and their interests but don't demand that they are interested only in you or what you are interested in, but if they are interested in you, be yourself the way they like as much as you can.

Prolong fun. Whatever it is you both enjoy, do a lot of it.
If you both like a certain videogame, play it a lot.
If you can, use a level editor to build up a new game world.
Prolong interesting conversations (but not monologues).
Talk about life in general. (What do you both want to do for job? etc.)
Talk about what you both would do if you won the lottery.
If he knows how to do something that is interesting, ask questions, try to do it.
If he has had girlfriends, talk about girls.
Practice a sport that you both like, or that he likes but you aren't as good at.
If you can't play ball,
try martial arts or wrestling as sparring partners, or weight lifting as spotting partners.
Go fishing, (literally).
Make things together, if either is creative or constructive.
If you both like music, try to start a band, or use music software to make a song.
Make a "hangout", especially for playing video games or whatever,
that's cool and fun even for talking or doing nothing.

...just some ideas...

OK sounds good.