Imperative Question, Well to me at least

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My mother continuosly yells at me, sometimes because i have a "tone" (""Supposetly""), and other times theres just something with her ( bad mood, and... uh idk what ever else there is). Now im not saying she shouldn't yell at me, but shes doing alot more and there all for really small things. I have asked her before to explain atleast whats wrong with her, or me, but she just gets more ticked?


I don't get it what the heck is going on, my dad is on a 7 month tour so i can't really talk with him.

Anybody have a clue of whats going on ?

Your dad is on a 7 month tour? Okay. Your mom is overwhelmed. I know you have your needs, but see if you can set aside an hour a day to think up and do things for your mom that are outside your normal chores, like clean out the car without being asked to. Try to do your chores without being reminded and try to be as cheerful as you can. If you are still yelled at, say as truthfully as possible, "I'm sorry." and drop it. Do not talk back or explain. You have friends I hope that you can talk to about how you are feeling. Give your mom the space you would like her to give you even if she doesn't.
If she abuses you, you might want to talk to a school counselor.
If things get too tense, you might nicely ask if there is a way to have a vacation from each other for a while. If you have younger siblings, can you responsibly babysit them while she has a chance to go to a movie with friends?

Yeah thats what i have been told to do by quite a few "post a question" forums and what not, i do know that she wouldn't abuse me, i honesty don't think she could even think of it, she blaim's her self alot for pretty much all of my problems, and i have told her it's not her fault, so has my family, "my pshcyatrist and hers", my diagnosis doctor if that really counts towards being my doctor (kind of a analysis person, and then tells patients who were analized what they have), to shorten an already long list everyone has told her that, but she is a big, if you will "the mother should be able to fix any problem, and dosen't want her baby boy feeling bad" type of personality which is good, but she is very hard on her self, so i give alot of "lee-way" for that, i just wanted to see if anyone else has a sistuation like mine

However, time has let me view the big picture and it's not all that bad considering what she must go through every day, and i thank her for also

thanks for the reply

My dad sometimes yells at me if I have a "tone" as well. For example I answered a phone call from him, and he reminded me about a scout meeting. I said I all ready knew about it ,and was grounded for a week for having a "tone".

I occasionally get into verbal fights with my parents because I have a "tone" and a "bad attitude" when all I'm doing is stating the truth. For myself, I'm wondering if its just a thing I picked up a while back as for how to act NT, since I've also been commented to always be walking around frowning and I can actually see this if I pass a mirror.

As others have said, though, it could also easily be your mom being stressed over your father's long trip.

For what it's worth, this is my experience: Whenever my husband went TDY, I could do both his job and mine for about three days. After that everything went downhill and by the time he got back I would be a weeping mess and the apartment destroyed and our autism plus, violent daughter screaming and the other kids thoroughly discombobulated. And I wasn't even worried about him being killed!
I remember my mom yelling at me about attitude when I thought I had hidden it pretty well. Ha!