Vasking in the Glory

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How many of you here ( teens ), know more so about your parents, then they do you. I feel bad sometimes because, with time i have come to learn for the sounds and motions my parents make when they are trying to eavse drop on me, i even spent a week working around with phones so there is no way they can listen to what im saying if i want it that way. I guess its a teen like thing i dont know, but i have too much free time so i have things set up to know where they are when im gone, because while they mean good, i dont need them on my PC or Room, it sounds like a stunt to others im sure especially to parents who read this, ubt honestly do you know everything about your children I'm mature enough that they can leave me to my personal buisness, my dad is the worse, he cant even knock on the door, he just opens it up and starts reading what im doing on my PC, i about ready to set up a 'new' lock on my door one made of metal perhaps iron idk, so he wont be able to just barge in.

"the only time my kid gets to chose what she is having for dinner is when she is paying!"
my mom

The best thing about moving out of my parents house was that they were no longer priviledged to be my parents. Until I moved out, I was in her house, her rules. When I could fend for myself, I was no longer under her house or her rules.

why? have those rules changed?

Merle

might I suggest a loud, obnoxious door alarm? Would scare them s**tless and let everyone know they are barging in. Also, might I suggest leaving note that says everytime they go through your stuff, you will go through theirs? Or even better, set the parental controls on theur TV and computer.

Well, they are both anti-technological, so i out wit them at almost every thing, my dad loves his electronics, but with a push of a button, i can crash every thing, i know how to make virus's, bad ones too, i know how to assemble and deassemble PC's; which is why i feel bad for them because i think they yell at me alot only because, they know of what im capable of! However, i am a big beleiver in wrong and right, so it would takes something serious to make me do anything; if i wanted to i could do alot, but i dont want to abuse powers, though at times its seems right, i know even in my fits of rage that its wrong

There are other things i know how to do, but i'll leave those in the closet for a later time, and my parents are coming close to pushing me over, im doing Yoga, meditation, and eating great, but idk if that will be enough to keep me down?

I always thought I understood my parents better than they did me.

And then I grew up, and they told me a few things they had held their tounges about. Quite interesting.

Now that I'm a parent I would have to say that I get pretty short on details. But at the same time, I'm really long on instinct. And I think the instinct is better; it's the knowing without knowing, lol. In other words, I know if my kids are safe and doing fine, and I know if they are troubled, but I may not always know exactly why or what, which I think is fine, because they need wings and they need to test those wings even if it means crashing in flight, on occassion. And I mostly keep my mouth shut about what I know from instinct, because they need to have that sense of privacy.

I could be entirely wrong about everything, of course. That is the problem with instinct. But I really don't think so; so far I've been dead on. My kids do eventually choose to tell me. And my mom was dead on. Kind of a scary way to parent, if I let myself think about it, but I really believe it's the right way.

I never really got along too well with my parents in the first place, and now they are starting to snoop in my stuff sometimes, it really makes me angry. my father trust's my 5 year old sister more than he does me, i dont know why bbut he does and it sucks; I'm starting to think " If he dosen't want to trust me i won't him either ", however he was raised with the father is always right even if wrong, yeah i hate that phrase, so he is hitting heads with me the only thing is, it's different now; i've been yelled at and glared at by him many times, im use to it, and now i'm a bit bigger than him, my bone structure is bigger than boths him and my mom, my shoulder supass his in length, and so dose my arms; however he is a USMC Count-Intell, so i still have some difficulty. I dont want to get into a fight with him, but he keep pushing me over and over again, i tell him to stop and he dosen't; i dont know whats right here, but if your willing to shake the cage, you had better be willing to take the dog! He and what he dose for a living has shaped me in a way, to where i can't show pain or fear because im a guy, and i should just tough it out, seems nice on paper, but harder to do in real life. pain is no longer a concern for me i come home with cuts and bruses and i dont even know where i have gotten them from, so i check every night to make sure theres no huge gash in my arm or something? My mom is the one who stops any thing from happening between us, she is big on the "Mama bear" thing! It really matters not to me any more whether im going to be gone today, tomorrow, or in the next minute; the recent events i had with my parents have shown a new face for them, im not suicidal or going to try to get hurt, but i really dont feel like a person anymore just something that eats, thinks, sleeps, and repeat; it sucks im going to have a talk with my therapist about it, because imm already on like 9 pills a day for depression and anxiety, and they aren't working any more, its like i have stopped taking them?

However to end my rant, things will happen, but all i can do is take whats going to happen right now!

I am glad you plan to talk to your therapist.

The one comment I want to make is this: you need to be who you are meant to be, even if it doesn't fit in with your father's image for you. You've said you have a strong sense of right and wrong, and as long as you hold onto that and don't do wrong, you will eventually earn his respect even if the image is all wrong. I won't gloss over the fact that the road to that respect is likely to be long and rough, and won't be completed during the years you live at home, but most parents are quite capable of eventually letting go of their vision and seeing the person in front of them. When what they see is solid, they eventually accept it.

Not to be picky, but "how many of you" is not a Yes or No question.