Message from my cousin..

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A message from my cousin friend (14 yr old).

"If you don't go to school then you are very huge boot; tableleg a huge f*cking nolifer and a p*ssy and are afraid of everything and so on. U will be thrown into mental hospital. U will never go to school and people are gonna call you like Wtf? Why she doesn't go to school.. and when you are put into school then u will kill urself because u are afraid of people and was afraid of people and thats why u kill urself OMG, this is ridiculous. Normal people don't do this. U can get normal too if u go out more."
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"later u will lose all your friends, sister and me if things get screwed up. U will get nuts and when granny and gfather die then u should take over their house and pay the bills. Must go shopping and so on. BUT you cannot do this because u are "ret*d" and social phobic and u will die in you own s*it and you will be thrown into hospital and into orphanage or where else.., or you will go to live with your mother who will be next to you working as a cleaner. And even your ruined little sister will be better person in the future than you. BUT OK. That what it is going to be. Take yourself together and improve yourself if you don't want to become a shi* in the future."


I think it's true. I should really improve myself. I'd really like to. But i don't have the strenght. My social phobia is always on the way.. my own mind is always on the way disturbing my life.
i wish i was never born ..

But i'll live on and find out what life has for me.

Last edited by skonamis on 27 Aug 2009, 5:52 am, edited 1 time in total.

With the way he was spelling in that note, sounds like he is the one that needs school.

I agree with KenM. Why should you listen to someone who's not only stupid, but malicious and nasty?

And I am a little confused why you would refer to them as your friend if this is the way they speak to you. Tell them to go f*** themself or something, where do they get off talking to you like that?

Here's some positive advice: ditch the cousin and see a counsellor. You should be seeing someone to help you overcome your social phobias and improve your social skills. Life will get better.

maybe i missed some stuff in that note but hes not actually trash talking you directly hes saying how you will become i think hes just trying to scare you into improving, yes he does it in a horrible way but i think hes just mad because you are going down a bad path in life ?.

I'm sorry, I would advise you to ignore the little monster. He's obviously not very intelligent... his literacy is way below average for his age, even considering it's text speak. He's nasty, has the hubris to be condescending (as though someone with an IQ of 80 should condescend to you in the first place) and just seems to relish causing you misery.

Why would you pay the least bit of attention to a twerp like him?

I've been social phobic in the past, missed a lot of school as a result, and at one time felt hopeless. Now I'm grown up, with a family of my own, work, pay bills, cook for myself and my son, have an allotment, hobbies, interests, and while I'm still sometimes phobic, I'd be very surprised if I died in my own sh... as your delightful relative suggests you will.

In other words, take this from someone who has been where you are... this nasty little child is talking out of his over developed rear end, and far from predicting your own future, he's more likely to be drawing down misfortune on himself.

YOU WILL BE FINE.

Look after yourself, and ignore the twits.

Thanks for support people.
His post didn't actually make me miserable but a little bit worried about my future. I have been worried about it almost all the time but his post made me worry a bit more. And about the friend stuff - I do believe he actually is my friend because he is what he is but i can tell you he's a good friend to have.(we have been friends from the time when we were around 10.). And i accept with TB's post. I think the same way. That he is trying to make me improve. But he doesn't understand that it is extremely hard for me to do without good understanding support.
I am already trying to ignore him when he talks about stuff he doesn't know much about.
It is good to hear from people who have been as low as i am, but have improved. It makes the day a bit more colourful.

About his message; I had to translate our language into english but i did not erase his mistakes in the text. I only translated it.

But yes, thank you again for support.

as i sayed "I'll live on and find out what life has for me."

thanks again ..

Hi Skonamis,

What is your original language, out of interest?

Also, I accept that your cousin may be trying to help you. In fact, when I think of it, my father used a similar tactic (though without the foul language or obscene imagery.) It didn't help at all... but the fact that a very intelligent man with my best interests at heart tried the same tactic does show, I think, that NTs can seem very harsh when trying to get through to us.

I'm glad that you're feeling a little better. Look after yourself.

Thank's again.

Estonian is the language.

I just watched the Estonian movie "Klass". God, no wonder you don't go to school!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Class_(2007_film)

Well, that cousin certainly isn't a scribe of Shakespearean prose.
There are some logical concerns buried in there - mybe in a few years will come the skill to express them in a way that doesn't sound like tearing down, but rather, building up.

It would have been better to have said in a manner such as "I am concerned that this or that might happen to you if . . ."

I see that as a good choice.
And when you see a way to encourage your life to be better, do take it.

Tell him, if he thinks you are all those things, then he is a sadistic A-hole.Tell him you will improve, but NOT for him...and if you do better than him and if he asks for help and he loses his job or cant find work in this recession economy, you will treat him the same way he treated you.HE is acting more like a bully than a friend.

i'm full of respect for your cousin's epic writing skillz.

well he certainly has a point, but he actually makes me wonder if going to school isn't just a waste of time, considering that he probably attends one.


if you feel you need to improve, just try to do it. there's nothing to think about here.

LOL.
well, bullying is pretty much the same no matter where you live. XD

Oh, I'm sure the "last straw" scene doesn't happen everywhere. I'd say what it is, but 1, it'd be a spoiler if anyone were interested in the movie, and 2, it probably belongs in the adult forum it's so hideous.

wow, i never thought i'd meet someone from there .

i forgot it was a real country for a little while

anyway, wishing you the best of luck with sorting out and dealing with your problems.
personally, i've graduated from school. it wasn't that much to get over. i didn't exactly have social phobia, but being around that many people certainly made me feel verrry self-conscious and edgy.

now the only thing i'm looking to do is get a job and move out of my parents place.