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I got a PM from someone that said for me to come here and talk about some of my problems. I want to know up front if anyone here is capable of helping me because in all the forums I have been to including one I was run off of which is also an Asperger's forum, I have gotten the message that these people are just there to chat and nothing more. I don't want to just talk all the time because it accomplishes nothing. I want help!

People will attempt to help you, but be prepared for painfully honest opinions sometimes. Have you reviewed the site thoroughly? I wish I had read through the forum before posting my plea for help because there are a lot of recurring themes here, but just lay it out there and ask for help if you're feeling really desperate.

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I am desperate because it's killing me inside that I have to roam the internet and I can't control the fact that I say all this stuff online. I have been banned from a Nar-Anon site and run off of an Asperger's forum and it hurts and it won't leave me alone. I have to try to fix it but I can't. I have some post regarding this issue already on the forum. I don't like to really repeat myself and tell the depressing story over and over again so will you help me?

I just skimmed some of your other posts and if the problem that you are referring to is that you get into fights with people online, that one is pretty easy from my viewpoint. If someone is reacting to you with hostility over something that you said with good intentions, then you can apologize and ask them what you said that was offensive. Getting into a pissing match online doesn't seem like a good idea. There's no need to get stressed out over people that you can make disappear with the flick of a switch.

....Or, was there another problem that you need help with? Disclaimer: I am not a doctor.

.....If you think you burned a bridge on the other forums, that might be nature's way of telling you to move on.....

I'm not sure if that's really plausible. I spent a good 2 years on that forum and now I feel that I have wasted that time when something else could have gotten done.

Well, only you can say for sure, but I think that's how people feel when they get divorced which is a terrible reason to stay, in my opinion.

I've burned a few bridges in my life, and the hardest part is letting go and forgiving yourself. I have tried to go back and mend friendships but more often than not the damage can't be undone, because the other person no longer cares.

Last edited by FaithHopeCheese on 09 Dec 2009, 1:03 am, edited 2 times in total.

You're right. I guess there is nothing I can do but it kills me to say that.

A couple things...

There is no permanence is life; all things change over time.

You didn't waste your time; you gained experience and memories from your time on those other forums.

WP is a support forum; the Haven all the more so, as it is for the members to vent - and for only constructive feedback. That doesn't mean you will hear what you want to hear, but there should be no attacks for being who you are. If that happens, let one of the moderators know so we can take care of it.

Welcome to WrongPlanet, and I hope you find what you are looking for here.


M.

All I gained was pain beyond comprehension and the fact that I took up with those fools. It pisses me off.

Things will make more sense after you heal, so by all means, be pissed off.

What are you trying to say?

What I meant was, when you are going through trials it is hard to see what is really happening. For instance I dated this guy who would often make this really snide comment to me when he was angry with me. I always took what he said as a joke, but several years later I realized he meant it - He only said it jokingly to get past my defenses...... This is just one example.

Basically, the answer won't come until you've learned the lesson.... sorry if that sounds like another riddle.