dryad wrote:
I'm not sure I understand. Is this at your place of employment, an organization, or a social group? Any answer would likely be dependent on the environmental circumstances and your motives for remaining there.
All of the above - church too! One elder claimed that my behavior is due to being an addict (which is a lie), not knowing that I was standing behind her. When I asked her to clarify what she had said, she denied saying it ... When the others pointed out that she had, she claimed to have been talking about someone else ... When those same people also pointed out that she had referred to me by name, she said that she was justified in saying what she said because I acted so weird all of the time.
When I complained to the Session (the Council of Elders), they told me that because she was an elder in long-standing service to the church, and that I had been there only a few years, that I should just forgive her and forget about it. That is typical of what I'm referring to.
(Yes, I know ... I ended a sentence with a preposition, but I'm too upset about this whole
"Shut up, Fnord! We're in charge here and she's our friend" garbage to do anything about it.)
I do not expect an apology from that elder; apologies are important, especially when you
know that what you've done is wrong.
Well, as for the church, you're not obligated to remain, so you might (as said before) examine your motives for staying there rather than finding a different church that better suits your needs. Also, is this elder aware that you're an Aspie? Perhaps she simply needs to be educated on it so she'll understand instead of passing judgements based on ignorance.
27 May 2011, 10:00 pm
