Why does everything have to be her way?

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Why does everything always have to revolve around my mother?

My aunt wants to get the family all together for a meal next month. We live all spread out, so the plan is to meet somewhere in the middle and stay at a hotel. My sis, bro and me were like, that's a great idea. My mum flew off the handle and came up with every excuse she could think of.

"I'm telling your aunt it has to be next year or i'm not going?" says mum.

She always turns everything into such a drama. I'm sick of it!

Why do some people with autism think the whole world should revolve around them and that no one else's opinion or needs are important. I am sick of it! Why can't she just be reasonable! She's so selfish and she thinks everyone else is being unreasonable, not her.

Just let her have her drama on her own. "What a shame you can't make it, mother." Don't let yourself get drawn in - it's a pity she can't go - don't involved in why - and that's it. Remain neutral.

You and your siblings should go, have a good time, and don't think about her. You are all adults and you each can make your own decisions.

Btw, I don't think this is necessarily anything to do with autism, but there are many people like your mother, and the best way to deal with it is to do what you want to do and not be controlled by them and their selfish whims.

LoL, most every woman wants and expects things her way.
or so it seems to me. most every woman I have ever known,
they are like cats, they do what they want, think what they want, yet don't know a damn thing of what they really want.. and their mood changes with their biology, their periods. and i never met one that didn't eventually use the excuse for going off the handle on being PMSing. its their excuse to mouth off and vent, while not giving you one.

I'll be playing the devil's advocate here. As an Aspie, I loathe family gatherings since most relatives either view me as a black sheep or a crazy cuckoo. I'll do anything within my means to boycott a family gathering. Maybe your mom loathes family gatherings too, especially if your family consists of many giggly and gossipy cliques like mine. She will thank you if you leave her out of this family gathering.

Yes, I did think this is one of thise things that involves a bit more than autism. Its more complicated. I just wanted to see what others thought.

I just needed a rant really. I always feel stuck in the middle.