Serial Killer Vibes

Post Reply New Topic

For a long time, I've known that people are kind of paranoid around me. I don't know why. It's just kind of been a fact of life. I started wearing argyle sweater vests, dress shirts and the like ablout a year and a half ago in an attempt to look more harmless, but it's done little or nothing to help. I've also tried being completely and totally open with people (as my counselor advised) but not much has changed.

Today in the lunch line, someone commented that I looked "about ready to snap and kill everybody". I pretended not to hear it at the time. I just got my lunch and went to one of my teacher's rooms where we're allowed to play Dungeons & Dragons during lunch. There were only four ther students there. I knew three of them. One of them, Hannah I knew quite well.

I explained what happened to Hannah and she said that the only thing she could think of was that they found my intellect intimidating. My counselor says that it freaks some people out because they don't know how much I can figure out how to get away with. I asked my principal how he'd describe my demeanor and he said he thought of me as "calm and contemplative". I've been described a couple times as withdrawn and geeky & I can kind of see where they're coming from with that. I don't see how that's intimidating though.

It really bugs me because I haven't heard people talk about me like that since last year. Does anyone else have this problem? Anyone have any advice?

What usually happens is when a moment of being deep in thought shows a facial expression with a clenched jaw which gets mistaken for anger. Couple that with an outfit that stands out by trying to blend in, and suddenly everyone thinks you're the next Hannibal Lecter. A more emo or goth appearance can hide odd faces, since everyone automatically assumes emos/ goths/ heshers to be sullen anyway. Even more effective would be to cultivate a hairstyle that helps obscure facial features.

I perceive that the people you RPG with at lunchtime know you well enough that they don't fear for their safety, and it seems as though you can depend on the one friend in particular to tell you the truth. Take heart and keep in mind that the high school world is made up of those who talk trash, and those who get it talked on them. Putting on tight pants and throwing a football seldom accomplishes anything in real life, though maybe the pants would

well...if you can find photos or video of you, with you unaware of the camera, that might help. I just came across a recent photo of a friend with AS, and...yiii. It reminded me of the chill I'd sometimes feel around him -- like at any moment he might, in totally cold blood, decide it was best to kill everyone in the room. He looks very hard to please or placate in this photo, utterly suspicious of what's going on, and totally critical of a social affair. Of course, it may be that he's in a crowded place and crawling out of his skin, but just to look at him...no, I'd stay away from that fellow.

See what the candid photos of you say.

My husband got those remarks. I admit, he sometimes does look like someone who is contemplating killing someone. He enjoys dark humor, which doesn't help.

I think one of the sole reasons for this is because he has a lack of facial expressions. When he smiles, it looks forced and fake. Everyone thinks he's angry all of the time, even when he's content. It's like he has only two types of faces: Cold and distant, or cheesy and forced. When he is drunk, he's able to look "normal". I'm not advocating getting drunk, it's just I can see the difference.

He doesn't do any of this on purpose, either. He also doesn't recognize it.

I think the people you are around are watching too many psychopath movies. I would be FAR more afraid of the charming serial killer.

I've had this a few times throughout school, but never directed at me. Always hushed chatter around me. Though it didn't help that all through middle and high school, I elected to sit at the very back corner of the room, and I never said a word, unless directed by teachers. Let them think what they will. As long as you have friends who understand you, you're not isolated. I wouldn't change my appearance to ease those around me.

You may not have thought of this, but honestly, people who are afraid of you, are less likely to bully you. It's the only thing that kept me out of the bully radar in the higher grades, and I'm just a big teddybear.

What I don't understand is that women my age seem to be intimidated by me with one even telling me to my face that I look like a serial killer and two going behind my back implying that I am a pedophile. Conversely, children, animals and seniors and especially mothers take right to me. Married women (especially 35+) seem to be the demographic I get along with best followed by babies and toddlers.

In addition to having a stereotypical Aspie posture, I'm starting to wonder if I subconsciously put out a "weirdo" front to keep from being mocked and bullied (better to be ignored than assaulted) and the previously mentioned groups can see past it to the fact I am kind and gentle and would not hurt a fly (literally).

That's what nobody understands. Serial killers and pedophiles as well as other "scary" types get away with it BECAUSE they look charming and friendly and above all else NORMAL. I recently saw this commercial from Ontario where a normal looking, smiling woman of around 30 is walking and holding hands with a child happily going down the street and sees a bunch of tough, scary looking men coming towards her off in the distance from every street corner. The men surround her in the park as the child is visibly scared. The police quickly show up, one of the tough men shows the cop the Amber Alert on his phone and she is arrested for child abduction.

The 'weirdo' would be the LAST person I would suspect of being a serial killer because they would have been caught ages ago. Nobody seems to grasp that though for some reason because it strikes too close to home. Life isn't like the movies and the worst people I have ever met (no serial killers thankfully) have caused great pain and suffering while smiling and making eye contact the whole time.

Oh honey, screw them. Real serial killers, you wouldn't know. I have a good friend who I think is one. I wouldn't want to dig up his yard. But he's such a nice guy. I've spent the night there in his guest room, even after sitting up all night and hitting a lot and he did too, about his proclovities. I've been back a few times, with my husband even. He's the ex green beret that is going to take me sky diving. I'll be apparently tethered for life and death to Sgt Jack but I do think he will protect me. Like I said, he's a nice boy. He will pack our chutes. He knows how, he was military. I love me some Jack. He's a nice boy. Yes, I'll be the one thats a character witness there. If he ever gets caught. I don't know for sure, but I have deep suspicions.

I have had the same thing said about me.

It is because I don't smile very often. I am quiet, and I am a loner. People are suspicious of people who are outsiders. They also think you might be angry or aggressive if you don't smile. I make a point of smiling at people and introducing myself and greeting people so that I am less intimidating. It seems to help.

I could give that a shot. I still have some skinny jeans and black concert T-shirts. My biggest ussue with that is that I might get pretty hot this summer if I grow out my hair (I've had a short buzz cut for most of my life) and start wearing all black. Maybe I should go for something kind of grunge or punk...

I don't know where I could find candid pictures of me, but it certainly couldn't hurt to try and find some

I think this might be a common problem...



Actually, I had thought of it. I'm at my district's alternative highschool (for those who got kicked out of the real highschool) and in the one year that I've attended this school there have been two brawls in the cafeteria (though I wasn't around for either one). I'm only telling you this to illustrate that physical agression and other forms of misconduct ar quite normal here. Just today somebody punched me in the stomach as I was walking past him. I just looked him in the eye and calmly told him that I'd crufify him upside-down in my back yard if he touched me again. I've never actually said anything like that to anyone before, but it seemed pretty effective.

Especially considering that under the DSM-5's alternative personality disorder model, psychopathy is characterized by the tendency to violate laws and social norms, as well as to disregard the rights of others; low anxiety and fear along with stress immunity and emotional stability; and, finally and most relevantly, a bold interpersonal style characterized by low levels of social withdrawal, high levels of attention-seeking, and gregariousness--people with psychopathy can often make very good first impressions with their "social potency" (in the words of the DSM-5's alternative model), basically, and when committing their crimes can often do so with a casual demeanor (thanks to their low anxiety and fear), even the more horrific stuff like gruesome murder. Think Ted Bundy.

Baby, it ain't what the DSM says. It's what you got on your walls, what you got in plastic in drawers and drawers, and the s**t you say. He's still a nice boy though. I have no problems with him. Apparantly he knows I'm somebody that can get over that, and yeah, I'm over that. Wasn't ever on it in the first place. I remember the night I found out. I was all crying cause my husband cheated on me. I was faithful then. He started telling me all about it and I was like I DON"T CARE SHUTUP! Do YOU NOT SEE WHAT IM GOING THROUGH! and he saw that it was not the time. He knows I know. I don't care. He cares very much, and I like him.

Also. guys like that are great at sparring H2H with. He's a bit bigger than me but not quite ok with hurting a girl who isn't a hooker. I could snap his necak in a second and he knows it. I got him in the knee hold before.

I have got those comments many times and recently i lost a job too my manager said the same comment
that you dont smile. Actually my father was antisocial alcoholic, voilent, damaging personality he
created havoc in society so i guess i carried forward those genes

But infact i am most harmless i am a vegetarian very quiet, i pray
One of my hubby's cousin is hardcore drunkard, womaniser, sleeps with different girls every week
but still he is quiet popular and as lot of friends

I think what we do doesnt matter as long as we fit the bill of happy face and confident looks

You look different (even with "normal" clothing, your facial expressions and body language will be atypical). People are afraid of different.
You are smart. People are afraid of smart.
You are quiet. People are afraid of quiet.

Once, at a summer job, my boss told me in front of all the other summer workers that I looked like the kind of person who might bring a bomb into work one day. I just looked at him, and he laughed nervously and left. Later, one of my co-workers who was very NT and with whom I got along fabulously said that my reaction was awesome and that I could probably do whatever I wanted from then on. I took every Monday off for the rest of the summer, and no one said anything.

some post are so funny i really laugh like anything
even tom and jerry cartoon wont be so much fun

I just shrug it off either on A) they're just gonna forget in five minutes when I leave anyway B) Since I'm not a serial killer I'm not a real threat to anyone C) I don't start random s**t with people., and D) if they think I'm a serial cause of the way I look, then that's the other person's problem not mine. You shouldn't feel intimidated to dress however the hell you want. I mean I probably would've actually called those people out had they said something like that, and loud enough that I could hear it. I guess that's just cause where I come from you don't to say out loud you think someone is a serial killer, that's just very disrespectful. I think if someone said I look like a serial killer, I'd just straight up say "well you look like an ass-hole! And you give off the vibes of an ass-hole!"