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10 Jul 2015, 9:20 pm

I feel sad for whoever he might find if that happens; and we can only hope maybe he will treat her better than he treated you.



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13 Jul 2015, 9:01 pm

That's what my therapist says. If he finds someone else, don't envy her. Pity her.

I'm back to being depressed and crying now that I don't have my kids. I hate this.

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13 Jul 2015, 11:27 pm

Do you have them back again soon?



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13 Jul 2015, 11:31 pm

You'll have a whole eternity to rest from life in your grave. There's no hurry.


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14 Jul 2015, 2:39 pm

I have them tonight, and then again Thursday night. Next weekend a**hole has them but I will be taking them to the anime convention on Sunday (he's taking them on Sat.).

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14 Jul 2015, 4:44 pm

Can you plan something or do something to get ready for their next visit Wednesday? They like anime, what else do they like?



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21 Jul 2015, 6:39 am

IceKitty wrote:
I agree that I need to stop caring about him and get the hell away from him as much as possible. I always feel better when I don't have contact with him. We have 3 kids so I will probably always have to communicate with him on a limited basis. But he is toxic and I need to limit my contact to the kids, once the divorce is final.

I wish I could just not care any more. It would make my life so much easier. I'm scared I won't find anyone else because I'm an aspie and I'm not 20 years old any more. But to be honest, being alone is much better than being with someone who does nothing but bash and belittle me. He's NT and makes friends and relationships a lot more easily than I do, even if he ends up treating people like crap. I know he'll try to rub it in my face if/when he finds someone else.


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21 Jul 2015, 3:44 pm

IceKitty,

How are you doing today?



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25 Jul 2015, 6:25 am

Can't anybody give IceKitty positive advice? :heart:

IceKitty,
when I was a child,
my mum took me to another country!
she flat out left!

I'm not saying that's you're solution


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25 Jul 2015, 8:33 am

Well it is concerning, given this thread of discussion, that IceKitty hasn't signed in to WP since 14 July. Given my belief system, I say keep her in your prayers.



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25 Jul 2015, 4:58 pm

Yeah, that's why I asked...I noted that her posting stopped :?

I hope she is ok/safe.

Some divorces can get scary.



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26 Jul 2015, 1:24 pm

My wife decided to leave me recently, because I'm an Aspie. I've been through deaths of close family members and many years of loneliness and thinking that I'd never have a proper relationship, but this is the worst I've ever felt in my life.



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26 Jul 2015, 3:55 pm

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My wife decided to leave me recently, because I'm an Aspie. I've been through deaths of close family members and many years of loneliness and thinking that I'd never have a proper relationship, but this is the worst I've ever felt in my life.


Sry to hear of your loss.
Is she an Aspie as well, or a NT?



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26 Jul 2015, 5:41 pm

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lostproperty wrote:
My wife decided to leave me recently, because I'm an Aspie. I've been through deaths of close family members and many years of loneliness and thinking that I'd never have a proper relationship, but this is the worst I've ever felt in my life.


Sry to hear of your loss.
Is she an Aspie as well, or a NT?


She's NT.
I wasn't diagnosed at the time we met but we both had a lot of problems to which we could relate, we helped each other to survive and escape our respective hellish situations, but it's reached the stage where she now wants a 'normal life' despite the fact we have children and a good home. I've been made to feel guilty for having this condition and there are all sorts of problems now mounting up as a result of this separation that I'm not going to be able to cope with.
The future for me is very grim. It felt like that before I met her, but I was still young then and unsure of what it was that made life so impossible for me. Now I know and there isn't a cure and the support I had is being taken away from me.
I don't want to live anymore.



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26 Jul 2015, 6:39 pm

Lostproperty;

I was at a similar place in life a few years ago, when my wife started divorce things, but I found out, there was something to continue to live for- my kids. The marriage ended but life did go on. There are many here on this Wrong Planet who will support you as you figure life out.



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26 Jul 2015, 9:21 pm

lostproperty wrote:
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lostproperty wrote:
My wife decided to leave me recently, because I'm an Aspie. I've been through deaths of close family members and many years of loneliness and thinking that I'd never have a proper relationship, but this is the worst I've ever felt in my life.


Sry to hear of your loss.
Is she an Aspie as well, or a NT?


She's NT.
I wasn't diagnosed at the time we met but we both had a lot of problems to which we could relate, we helped each other to survive and escape our respective hellish situations, but it's reached the stage where she now wants a 'normal life' despite the fact we have children and a good home. I've been made to feel guilty for having this condition and there are all sorts of problems now mounting up as a result of this separation that I'm not going to be able to cope with.
The future for me is very grim. It felt like that before I met her, but I was still young then and unsure of what it was that made life so impossible for me. Now I know and there isn't a cure and the support I had is being taken away from me.
I don't want to live anymore.

Are you sure the separation is a done deal? If you still value your wife as an important person in your life, she can't really make you feel worse if you choose to tell her how much you value her as a person And want to support her. But if your marriage is really over, yes....very difficult.

How old are your kids?