Does anybody here live alone?

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01 Dec 2016, 2:00 am

I too would hate living in an apartment without anywhere to go during the day. On weekends I might get coffee or snacks just for an excuse to be somewhere else for a bit.



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01 Dec 2016, 2:30 am

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I've lived alone for almost a year. I always thought I'd love living alone, but it's become like a prison (with my own shower, thankfully) since I don't have a car and no one ever comes over. I used to live with several room mates who always had friends over and I was always stressed out from there being too many humans all the time (even though I liked said humans). This has been worse, though. My sleep schedule is pretty random, I rarely know what day it is, I talk to myself constantly, I'm always on the verge of going nuts from loneliness, etc. I've never seen the movie, but I can understand why Tom Hanks would make friends with a volleyball. Maybe it'd be different if I had a job, a ride, and some company sometimes.

at least you can know that you're far from alone in this.



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01 Dec 2016, 2:53 am

I live alone and go to school as well, it can be rough sometimes. A lot of what you are saying unfortunately sounds pretty familiar to me, doing much of anything is hard and it always feels like it is going to unravel. I try very hard at school and it stresses me out a lot, I am perfectionist yet a terrible procrastinator which is not a peaceful mix. Going to school is such an effort that I don't have much energy for anything else, socially it's as bad as it has ever been. I've been at the end of the line of my social capital for a while and it turns out that I am not happy with the isolation. It's been a long slow process but I don't have any other choice but to keep grinding, I don't have anything else better going on.



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01 Dec 2016, 8:50 am

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I hope you are investing that saved money in something that at least pays a generous dividend.

it's paying about 5% effective interest a year right now, and it seems stable (it's pretty weird that the gross interest has even increased a little bit, while inflation, which is still pretty high right now, is slowly but steadily decreasing. apparently the recession is actually benefitting me. go figure). if it keeps going on like this, it might be doubling my money in ten years or so, even though it's a low-risk investment. i guess i made a good choice (and probably got lucky). all the more reason for me to save as much as i can right now and then just leave it all there in the bank. in the end i think i'm staying with my parents for at least another year. it will pay off later


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01 Dec 2016, 5:38 pm

^^^here in amuurica, all the high-interest-rate non-wall street investments, have disappeared. you sound like you got something good, a doubling of your money in ten years = [per rule of 72] about 7% effective interest rate. :wtg:



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02 Dec 2016, 5:57 am

I've lived alone for years and years. I go out usually just once a week for groceries.



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03 Dec 2016, 7:55 pm

I'm very regimented and disciplined but I'm way to paranoid to ever live alone.



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03 Dec 2016, 9:23 pm

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I'm very regimented and disciplined but I'm way to paranoid to ever live alone.

in place of clear alertness, I also am paranoid. :o



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03 Dec 2016, 11:17 pm

WetCarbon wrote:
I've lived alone for almost a year.

I always thought I'd love living alone, but it's become like a prison (with my own shower, thankfully) since I don't have a car and no one ever comes over. I used to live with several room mates who always had friends over and I was always stressed out from there being too many humans all the time (even though I liked said humans). This has been worse, though. My sleep schedule is pretty random, I rarely know what day it is, I talk to myself constantly, I'm always on the verge of going nuts from loneliness, etc.

I've never seen the movie, but I can understand why Tom Hanks would make friends with a volleyball.

Maybe it'd be different if I had a job, a ride, and some company sometimes.



I live alone, I have a cat. I'm like you, I talk to myself & can forget what day it is & I can't drive.



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04 Dec 2016, 3:56 pm

I've lived alone for 20 years now. When I moved from my parent's home, I shared a house with a friend. There were good aspect to this situation and I miss having someone to talk with regularly.

I often think it would be nice to live with someone because I tend to get stuck in routines and I think another person would force me to do something different on occasion. Then again, I like the freedom of being able to do what I want without having to make sure it's ok with another person. If I want to listen to music or watch a movie, no one will complain about my choices. If I want to go to sleep, there is no one making noise or wanting attention.

I guess I want someone close in my life, but I fear losing autonomy and freedom. I've probably stayed alone all this time because it's easier and safer than dealing with another person.


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05 Dec 2016, 12:53 pm

I live alone in a fairly large apartment. I struggle with some things, but it's hard to tell what's related to Aspergers and what's just a consequence of me being a domestically clueless bachelor. Five years down the line, and I seem to be alive, still.


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