This is the conclusion that I've come to.

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My mum would rather be miserable that I'm fat in her eyes, than be happy that I'm alive. I went to her place to have a piecer of Birthday Cake that was left over from my Grandpa's Birthday. She tapped me on the widest part of my girth. As I was finishing off the icing from my mum's piece, she had the nerve to ask me how much I weigh. I've told her that I weighed 223 lbs. The truth is that I've weighed in on my scale at 235 lbs and I've lost 7 lbs during the first three days on my job. It would have been a 10 lb loss if I was eating healthier than I do. I now weigh 228 lbs. I'm glad that I didn't tell my mum the truth. It's not I who has the problem, it's my NT mum. I know that most of her siblings are obese and yes, they do have their health problems. The thing is that my mum doesn't put emphasis on health, she puts empasis on size and weight. I was feeling that I was forced to cut the visit short, because I don't want to be around her, whenever she gets like that. I plan on doing that in the future, as well. Heck...I'll even spend ahour or so, with my dog and my parents, every morning, rahter than having dinner at their place on Saturday evenings. My mum wants me to be a Barbie, though I'm more of a Sid. I feel that her attitude towards the whole thing is archaic and disqusting. She knows that my pills increase my appetite. I'm just happy that I'm losing weight in a way that I like to lose it. Hard work and no diets. If I become thin, that's wonderful. If I stay Sid-like, than there will be a lot of me, for most people to love.

It's awful that she does this to you; you don't deserve it. The fact that she isn't worried about your health, and more of how you look, is what makes this unacceptable.
I think that since this has been going on for a while, you should try to not get into situations where she would most likely comment on your weight. If that means seeing her less often, I think it would be worth it.
And I'm really happy that you're losing weight the healthy way. Diets never work, and I'm glad you are eating what you like, and losing weight by hard work.
If you're happy with how you look, then I think she needs to accept it.

she's pushing the grand illusion on you
its all bull s**t
you be happy with who you are
your a great person
be who you are
not who she wants you to be

Shelby bo belby!

I hope things improve with you soon!

I'm sorry that your mom is being so rude to you. I can't imagine EVER treating my kids that way. You just go about losing weight your way. I also think that it's great that you are setting boundaries with you mom. I've met people like your mom, a lot in my life, and it sounds to me like she just likes to critisize, and manipulate others to have control. If it weren't your weight, she'd pick something else to harp on. I've read a lot of your posts, and you sound like such a nice person. You deserve to spend your time around people that reflect that positivity.

Hi Cockneyrebel,

How tall are you? I'm about 220 Lbs. and 6 ft (1.80 m) tall, and I don't have any sort of "weight problem". Unless you're really short, don't worry about your weight! As for your mum, so she has obsessions... about your weight in this case, but it really doesn't matter so much what they're about. Obsessing over things is an Aspie trait. You have to get it from somehere, right..?

I'm around 5ft 4 to 5ft 5. I's also like to say that some people are too airheaded to realise that weight is a personal thing.

Some mothers suck.

235LBS is nothing. Besides, its about you and your comfort with yourself. I've known some larger women who are one, absolutely stunning and two, healthier than a damn apple tree.

You're mom also seems like she needs to understand the health idea a little better. Its a little disgusting that we can actively smile at those anorexic but downcast those a little chubby (which IS healthy) and turn away from those larger. If any woman was actually like Barbie they'd snap their back in seconds flat.

I have a feeling that if you were 120lbs, she'd still find something to complain about (Why do you wear such dark colors? You should smile more. So and so just got her Master's degree. Etc). Provided you aren't dying because of your weight, it's really her problem.

I'm constantly amazed by the immaturity of people's parents.

If you look at all these people woh are ditzy and pretty and the what-not, they are all self-centered and over-confident which can get on anyone's nerves.

So, in short, just be yourself and people will acccept you.
(That probably won't help much, but it's a shot)