I guess part of why the ancestry thing stuck with me is that my mum is relieved it's 'not her fault'.
She feels guilty cos I couldn't eat a lot of food growing up.
She thinks that made her a bad parent.
Rather than a parent of a verbally dyspraxic, autistic child with taste sensitivities.
Heck, I couldn't even eat full stop til I was 2.
I still don't 'get hungry'. I eat out of routine. Mum insisting I ate 3 meals a day when my stepdad said 'well she wasn't even hungry' is why I remember that rule.
I didn't eat for a week as an adult cos I was on a retreat where they didn't bother serving autism friendly food. It was only on the Friday, when I was physically collapsing out of the exhaustion of that, that I really noticed.
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