Are They Rejecting Me Or I Am Being Too Sensitive

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DoingMyBest
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17 Jun 2024, 3:29 pm

Recent diagnosis with a variety of factors that make things pretty tough for me. Now I am reframing my past which is a painful process. I am even more sensitive to every time someone walks away from talking to me. What are they picking up? Am I weird? Am I just too much for them? My family hardly sees me. I have just learned that they knew that I have been on spectrum all along. You would think they would have had more compassion for my situation and understood how much I needed them. I am very sad right now.



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17 Jun 2024, 10:59 pm

It could possibly be both, that you're used to be rejected and therefore anticipate it and that this leaves you sensitive to potential rejection.


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24 Jun 2024, 12:35 pm

I have been reframing my first 52 years. And now I am becoming more self aware, I see better what happen inside and outside me.
They should have told you that being neuorodiverse does not mean being less, it is being different. We are much better at something, and worse at something else. Focus on your strengths, on all those things that you are good at without any effort. And look for the people that appreciate you, maybe you did not notice them, but there are



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24 Jun 2024, 1:42 pm

I was in my late 60's I was diagnosed. I have to say, it was no surprise. It first became clear to me that autism was the main issue in about 1995. It took more than 20 years for me to find a resource that would work with people my age.

Of course the diagnosis didn't solve anything. It did provide an legitimate explanation that probably has decreased a lot of self-loathing. When it comes to interactions with people in general, the outcomes are pretty much the same. The difference is that now I know to seek out resources (which are in very short supply and should be increased) where I can interact with similar people. I guess what I'm saying is that I feel less alone.

If you're like many of us you're going to find that this new credible explanation for your differences won't make any difference with people you already know. Their judgment is in, and it's unlikely they'll change it. If you can, look for other opportunities. I'm sorry if this means perhaps having less contact with your family. Sometimes that's necessary.