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04 Nov 2024, 2:46 pm

I don't understand. I get laughed at sometimes. It makes me feel embarrassed. I sometimes start conversations with strangers and I guess I shouldn't. I sometimes just feel curious. I feel I'm breaking social rules. One of my sisters friends doesn't really like me. I wish I could not make people feel uncomfortable. People have thought I was on drugs. They said it thinking I couldn't hear. It's because I sometimes talk to myself a lot and don't always look where I'm going.

In Grade 12 even a teacher made fun of me. I was not ok in Grade 12. I couldn't really get to class ready to do work. I didn't do much work tbh. Barely graduated. They somehow decided to make me a joke or something. They laughed at me for saying something weird, they told me I was bad at presentations, they told other people I was not motivated, and that I was failing, they called me out in front of everyone. I almost stormed out. It still makes me feel bad.

Sometimes people are mean to me about things they think I should be able to do at my age. I've been yelled at, or laughed at. I can't use a can opener still or use a knife. Today it just feels bad and I guess I'm dwelling.



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04 Nov 2024, 2:56 pm

Social bonding and taking out their own feelings of inadequacy seem like common motives.


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04 Nov 2024, 3:28 pm

I wish you well Crystal

I wish I had some helpful advice for you


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04 Nov 2024, 3:33 pm

Crystal ... I'm sorry you're experiencing this with people ... this is (largely) why I avoid public nowadays. I hope it gets better for you.


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04 Nov 2024, 3:34 pm

Humans have a primitive need to feel superior, so bullying others they perceive as weaker makes them feel that way.



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04 Nov 2024, 4:13 pm

It’s from their insides. Their personalities. It’s about them. Not the recipient. If you watch them with everyone else you can see it’s just who they are.



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05 Nov 2024, 11:06 pm

They're probably projecting their insecurities on to you. It's not your fault at all.



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10 Nov 2024, 1:42 pm

People are mean because of more focus on the survival instinct and less focus on tender-heartedness.



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10 Nov 2024, 2:37 pm

? a lack of peoples ability to deal with Neurodiversity...? perhaps . ? Peer pressure for a person to be able to be able to display their bullyhood . :twisted:


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10 Nov 2024, 8:43 pm

Crystal1414 wrote:
I don't understand. I get laughed at sometimes. It makes me feel embarrassed. I sometimes start conversations with strangers and I guess I shouldn't. I sometimes just feel curious. I feel I'm breaking social rules. One of my sisters friends doesn't really like me. I wish I could not make people feel uncomfortable. People have thought I was on drugs. They said it thinking I couldn't hear. It's because I sometimes talk to myself a lot and don't always look where I'm going.


The more people see you the more they get used to you. The first impression may have been suboptimal. Good news is that our impressions of other people evolves over time.

Social rules take longer to learn, but that is ok, just be patient with yourself and forgive yourself, don't blame yourself. Other people can spend the time and energy blaming, that is their work load. I don't give any credit to the negativity of others. It is true people can be mean and petty, that is a heavy burden that they must carry.

You can spend your time and energy thinking about what a great person you are. Make lists of all the neat things about yourself.

Every morning when you wake up, pour yourself a big mug of confidence, and drink it all up.

Since you talk to yourself, tell yourself good things about yourself.

I have found that these little things help a lot in my own life.


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11 Nov 2024, 10:44 pm

What about "Charisma on Command" on YouTube?
One guy on Reddit swears that any form of Autism is not a limit on life - even if it feels like it.
He says that we CAN in fact learn social skills.

For example: Going to the gym when it's crowded and feeling like I don't belong,
or especially that they're getting sick of me.

In reality, those worries about people in the gym are misperceptions invented by my subconscious telling me that nobody likes me.
Yet if I ask anyone, they will tell me that they never thought anything like that, and that they were simply focused on working out.

The more you know is the more light shed on the deepest reaches of your mind and the less shadows to haunt you.
Fear is a temporary thing and learning new things and the confidence and happiness that it brings will last a lifetime.



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12 Nov 2024, 6:44 am

Jleger91 wrote:
What about "Charisma on Command" on YouTube?
One guy on Reddit swears that any form of Autism is not a limit on life - even if it feels like it.
He says that we CAN in fact learn social skills.

For example: Going to the gym when it's crowded and feeling like I don't belong,
or especially that they're getting sick of me.

In reality, those worries about people in the gym are misperceptions invented by my subconscious telling me that nobody likes me.
Yet if I ask anyone, they will tell me that they never thought anything like that, and that they were simply focused on working out.

The more you know is the more light shed on the deepest reaches of your mind and the less shadows to haunt you.
Fear is a temporary thing and learning new things and the confidence and happiness that it brings will last a lifetime.


This is correct.


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