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03 Dec 2024, 12:25 am

There have been some posts here recently that are so awful and so slimy that I think I should protect my well being by not coming back.



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03 Dec 2024, 1:48 am

But I'll miss your input



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03 Dec 2024, 5:43 am

It's possible to waste an awful lot of time and mental energy on internet arguments.

The trick is to identify who is arguing in good faith and who is just getting off on the idea that they're beating you, somehow.

Some people will read your position, take the time to try and understand what you're saying and engage with it thoughtfully.

Others will read and all the time they're just looking for the cracks, the bits they can stick their fingers in and poke around until you get angry or upset with them.

They enjoy it. Don't give them the satisfaction.


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03 Dec 2024, 5:40 pm

bee33 wrote:
There have been some posts here recently that are so awful and so slimy that I think I should protect my well being by not coming back.
Nooo - please stay! :heart:


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03 Dec 2024, 5:43 pm

DuckHairback wrote:
It's possible to waste an awful lot of time and mental energy on internet arguments.

The trick is to identify who is arguing in good faith and who is just getting off on the idea that they're beating you, somehow.

Some people will read your position, take the time to try and understand what you're saying and engage with it thoughtfully.

Others will read and all the time they're just looking for the cracks, the bits they can stick their fingers in and poke around until you get angry or upset with them.

They enjoy it. Don't give them the satisfaction.
^ Sound advice. :thumright:


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03 Dec 2024, 5:44 pm

bee33 wrote:
There have been some posts here recently that are so awful and so slimy that I think I should protect my well being by not coming back.


You are a valued member of the forum, bee33.

I think many people would be sad if you were to leave.



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03 Dec 2024, 7:23 pm

Nice if you might stay bee33....... :mrgreen:


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04 Dec 2024, 1:04 am

Can we get a new world to live in? I'm tired of this one.



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04 Dec 2024, 5:02 pm

Thank you all for your kindness. I think I've been a sulking brat. People will say their views and I should be able to deal with it like a grown up.



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04 Dec 2024, 9:16 pm

It seems a perfectly understandable reaction to me.
I don't mind sulky behaviour as long as you don't leave :D



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04 Dec 2024, 9:18 pm

^You're too kind.



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04 Dec 2024, 9:57 pm

What no longer serves me.

What doesn't serve me and never touched upon.

What had never served me and yet it's still entangled onto.

What supposed to serve me, but doesn't serve me.

What I thought that could serve me, but I don't have the prerequisites for it to serve me.

What could've served me, but it's too complicated for that to happen.

What I'm certain that can serve me, but cannot have or attain.

What can serve me, but I don't like it.


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04 Dec 2024, 10:12 pm

I wish I could go to sleep and wake up in the spring or at least skip December.



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05 Dec 2024, 1:11 am

^Is it winter you don't like or just December? Is it the holidays?



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05 Dec 2024, 9:42 am

Will there be snow for Christmas ..? and how will it affect driving conditions here ?


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05 Dec 2024, 9:58 am

bee33 wrote:
Is it winter you don't like or just December? Is it the holidays?

December bothers me from a trauma standpoint. It brings me back to an extremely unpleasant day in another December, which changed the trajectory of my life, especially when the weather is similar - when it’s so cold and the stars are so bright. Sometimes I’ve tried to ignore it or reason with myself about it, but I’ve found that it still bothers me nonetheless. I had flashbacks when I was out walking my dog a couple evenings ago. Ideally, I’d just make my life as simple as possible as a therapist recommended, but that’s kind of hard with Christmas and all.

Aside from that, I feel a lot of pressure to make Christmas enjoyable for my kid although I often have trouble affording things that he wants since I’m the only person who buys him anything. My family doesn’t celebrate Christmas or birthdays. I usually manage, but it’s gotten progressively harder as he’s gotten older. I’ve had to merge Christmas and his birthday, which is next month, together which makes me feel guilty although I know that it shouldn’t under the circumstances.