Therapist told me autistics struggle to "let go"

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Is that true in your case?

I don't know if that it explains my comparisons with things and obsessing over them.

Let go of what

Is it like letting go of possessions

This is bad therapy.
The therapist is trying to get the autist to conform to NT standards of morality,
which are pretty f*****g low if you look at the state of the world.
NTs can just walk past social slights or moral problems with ease, but Autists *care*.

It's part of who we are. We care deeply about things including our special interests and work
hard on them. This is a strength, not a weakness.
It might become a weakness or counter-productive when the social norms are so lax nothing means
anything and obsessing over things won't change anything, but that is more societies problem than
the autist.

The other thing that could be happening is the therapist does not
see the history. The autist might be extremely traumatised from a small
thing happening again and again, and the therapist does not care to try
to put themselves in the autist's shoes.

I dont know the context, but I wouldn't listen to the therapist.
Therapists are humans too, and usually pretty stupid.

This is a very good point that I can relate to. You may have gone through a lot of loss that you were coping with well in the background or ignoring, until the one thing tipped you over and now it's too much. You could have gone through a series of losses, and the last loss was the last thing you had that you cared about. To the therapist, it might look like you can't handle that loss, but really, you could be experiencing the weight of all that loss with this final thing as the symbol of it. I had gone through a loss that would typically be difficult for me, but not devastating. I spoke to one person that so far has been 100% right about everything they told me, and one thing they said is to start feeling the grief of all of the things I had lost. They specifically mentioned my car that I had lost a few months ago, but I remember not caring at all about the car, so I didn't pay much attention to what they were saying at the time. But like with everything they said, they were right. There was a considerable amount of loss beyond the car that had never been addressed because I was virtually going from one loss to the next without ever having the stability or appropriate support to properly grieve the loss.



My opinion isn't that they are "pretty stupid", but I think many are quite blind to how they affect their perception of and relationship with their clients. I also think a lot of them are more concerned with being "right" than actually helping the client. It becomes a power struggle rather than a collaborative relationship, and that not only makes the therapy ineffective, but actually cause further harm to the client.

> but I think many are quite blind to how they affect their perception of and relationship with their clients.

My impression of all the 4 therapists I met and know as friends is they would have definitely diagnosed and gossiped about a brilliant author or artist. It takes brainpower to be open minded enough to see people's perspectives and think outside the training and groupthink, statistically speaking very few people have this ability. I don't think many people should be therapists for this reason. As a profession I think it can't possibly work.

Thank youuuu! When someone is trained to see everything as normal or disease, then any hint of difference from normalcy is sick per its logic. It's fundamentally sick.

Exactly. Very dehumanizing.

The brain is the most complicated object in the universe, and these people claim to understand it with surveys.
History is replete with examples of how a lot of illnesses change with whatever politics is in fashion at the time.
Being gay was an illness, I think there was something about black slaves who had "attitude problems" at some point, and of course the nazis just randomly labelled people and backed it up with "science" also, sorry to bring up nazis but whatever.

I am taking a political science course, and they point out that right now we have a lot of "managerialism" as an ideology which is deeply problematic.

It might be cathartic for you to watch some youtube critiques of managerialism, but maybe that was just me lol.