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Brian0787
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Brian0787
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Yesterday, 9:35 am
Sweetleaf wrote:
Brian0787 wrote:
I have been having some more setbacks with online sex addiction. I don't mean to keep writing about this on here but it helps to get my thoughts out and not keep things bottled in. I have been using my flip phone as a hotspot to access it out of my desperation. Every part of me wants to destroy it but i am afraid of not having any way to communicate. I may have to do it anyway because I am unable to stop from accessing it.
If I don't stop I will find it hard to control myself from spending everything I have. The dopamine high I get from it is making it so hard to break away from and probably loneliness acts as gasoline. I am going to have to get away from being able to access it so may have to destroy my phone. I wish some of the blockers didn't have so many loopholes but it's not their fault. Nothing is ever 100 percent. I hope one day I can look back on this with freedom instead of shame.
If I don't stop I will find it hard to control myself from spending everything I have. The dopamine high I get from it is making it so hard to break away from and probably loneliness acts as gasoline. I am going to have to get away from being able to access it so may have to destroy my phone. I wish some of the blockers didn't have so many loopholes but it's not their fault. Nothing is ever 100 percent. I hope one day I can look back on this with freedom instead of shame.
Could you try to slowly limit yourself? like watch less of it over time, also Idk there is the whole internet like you can for sure look up sex stuff that you don't have to pay for. Destroying your phone seems extreme, like it would be sort of hard to get by these days without a phone. That said a lot of phones have control options(generally its for parents to stop their kids accesing inappropriate content), but you could still use it to like limit adult content on your phone or even outright block it out. Like you don't have to throw out your phone you could just use the parental controls on yourself before throwing away your whole phone.
That being said idk if you don't have a sexual partner, or even if you do...there is nothing wrong with masturbating, but if your life is being ruled by that urge I can see how that would be problematic.
Thank you, Sweatleaf. I have a flip phone but have been using it as a hotspot to bypass the blocker I have on my laptop. I might try to put my phone up somewhere where I don't have access at night. I used to have a smartphone a year or so ago and got rid of it because of the addiction. I thought with a flip phone it would be better but I still have been looking at videos and things on it and now recently using it to look at the sites. I appreciate your suggestion though
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Brian0787
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Yesterday, 10:30 am
babybird wrote:
Sorry Brian
I didn't know you was struggling in this way
I didn't know you was struggling in this way
Thank you, Babybird! I appreciate it
It's been a long struggle but one of my own making. I sometimes wish I never was exposed to porn when I was younger but I probably would have came across it at some point.
Brian0787
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Yesterday, 10:32 am
Rossall wrote:
Can't you limit yourself to free sites like Pornhub? I had a bad sex chat line addiction but managed to get over it. Now at 54 I have very little sex drive so it's not a problem.
I have been trying to limit myself to videos but don't even like doing that. I have a flip phone that I've been using to look at the videos. I imagine the sex chat lines had to be addicting as well. I think if internet porn wouldn't be around I probably would have gotten addicted to that. I'm glad you were able to get over it
I am hoping I will be able to as well. I need to at this point because it's slowly destroying everything around me.
Brian0787
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MatchboxVagabond wrote:
I saw this yesterday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA and she talks a bit about porn and sex addiction, but mostly in the context of dopamine in general.
As a recovered alcoholic and pot user, most of what she said seemed to be pretty much spot on for why I could eventually give those things up, but have had such an issue with sugar.
As a recovered alcoholic and pot user, most of what she said seemed to be pretty much spot on for why I could eventually give those things up, but have had such an issue with sugar.
Thank you for sharing MatchboxVagabond! I will definitely take a look at it
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Yesterday, 1:35 pm
MatchboxVagabond wrote:
I saw this yesterday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA and she talks a bit about porn and sex addiction, but mostly in the context of dopamine in general.
As a recovered alcoholic and pot user, most of what she said seemed to be pretty much spot on for why I could eventually give those things up, but have had such an issue with sugar.
As a recovered alcoholic and pot user, most of what she said seemed to be pretty much spot on for why I could eventually give those things up, but have had such an issue with sugar.
Sugar seems to be the most powerful addiction of all. I got hooked on the white stuff back in the '80s.
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