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Yesterday, 9:41 am

Are there any other places you could try


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Yesterday, 9:46 am

funeralxempire wrote:
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People that take that view tend to be very good at ignoring situations that don't fit with that world view. I tend to just avoid those sorts just because they're not worth involving myself with.


The thing is, he was going to take part in the knitting group, not to interact with that one crappy person. Withdrawal amounts to letting that nasty hag take the group away from him, but continuing to participate makes it clear that she can't bully him out of the group.

I agree, the hag isn't worth interacting with, but the if he enjoys the group it's probably still worth participating in the group.

If one flinches and cowers in the face of being bullied, the bully wins.

Bullies can be extremely stubborn and unless OP is really and truly im a place where it's tolerable, that's not likely to work.



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Yesterday, 11:34 am

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Are there any other places you could try


I'm planning on going to my clubhouse on Tuesdays. There are staff walking around and the topics of conversation are nicer.


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Yesterday, 11:47 am

Yeah give yourself a break man

You deserve better


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Yesterday, 1:41 pm

MatchboxVagabond wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
MatchboxVagabond wrote:
People that take that view tend to be very good at ignoring situations that don't fit with that world view. I tend to just avoid those sorts just because they're not worth involving myself with.


The thing is, he was going to take part in the knitting group, not to interact with that one crappy person. Withdrawal amounts to letting that nasty hag take the group away from him, but continuing to participate makes it clear that she can't bully him out of the group.

I agree, the hag isn't worth interacting with, but the if he enjoys the group it's probably still worth participating in the group.

If one flinches and cowers in the face of being bullied, the bully wins.

Bullies can be extremely stubborn and unless OP is really and truly im a place where it's tolerable, that's not likely to work.


You might be right if the entire group supports the bully, but otherwise being more stubborn than the bully will eventually result in the bully acting out and getting removed or shunned.


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