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21 Dec 2021, 7:32 am

Neurotypicals starts to hate people for no reason. Their hatred may initially be triggered by political or religious disagreements, and the fact is that the vast majority of neurotypicals prefer to talk only to people they agree with.

This means neurotypicals only likes to be in "social echo chambers" - listening to their own echoes (people who say the same as they say).

And when an NT starts hating you, they will NEVER stop. Even if you start to reach out to them, making compromises or even agree with them - they'll still hate you.

And this is why I hate neurotypicals.



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21 Dec 2021, 9:11 am

thinkinginpictures wrote:
Neurotypicals starts to hate people for no reason. Their hatred may initially be triggered by political or religious disagreements, and the fact is that the vast majority of neurotypicals prefer to talk only to people they agree with.

This means neurotypicals only likes to be in "social echo chambers" - listening to their own echoes (people who say the same as they say).

And when an NT starts hating you, they will NEVER stop. Even if you start to reach out to them, making compromises or even agree with them - they'll still hate you.

And this is why I hate neurotypicals.


I have found this to be the case with Autistic folk, too. I guess it is a human thing?



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21 Dec 2021, 9:21 am

Have you been in the PPR section or L&D??



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21 Dec 2021, 9:53 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
I have found this to be the case with Autistic folk, too. I guess it is a human thing?


Well, maybe you're right.

Humans are bad.



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21 Dec 2021, 10:12 am

thinkinginpictures wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I have found this to be the case with Autistic folk, too. I guess it is a human thing?


Well, maybe you're right.

Humans are bad.


Yep. I am full of contradictions, personally. I am rather misanthropic but at the same time, full of love and hope. :heart:



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21 Dec 2021, 10:20 am

From what i have seen once someone thinks badly of you its VERY hard to change their mind. No logic or good behavior can change their mind its all instinctual. I just don't bother with people who dislike me for this reason, not anyone has to like anyone anyway.

As long as they hide their distaste who cares. Although if they are people that you have to deal on a daily basis it becomes emotionally exhausting.



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21 Dec 2021, 10:29 am

AprilR wrote:
From what i have seen once someone thinks badly of you its VERY hard to change their mind. No logic or good behavior can change their mind its all instinctual. I just don't bother with people who dislike me for this reason, not anyone has to like anyone anyway.

As long as they hide their distaste who cares. Although if they are people that you have to deal on a daily basis it becomes emotionally exhausting.


Yes. I normally just leave people I dislike alone, unless they are the gateway out of a personal hell for me, in which case I end up throwing myself at the gates of hell and repeatedly get vaporized emotionally for doing so.



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21 Dec 2021, 10:59 am

^Its so hard to maintain distance with people emotionally. I am getting better at it though



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21 Dec 2021, 11:14 am

they are emotional

not rational

understand this

you need to talk to them like they are babies



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21 Dec 2021, 11:15 am

they think they are smart and understand things ....they don't



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21 Dec 2021, 11:25 am

AprilR wrote:
^Its so hard to maintain distance with people emotionally. I am getting better at it though


I find emotional proximity to be harder to maintain. I can be cold blooded with people quite easily. :shrug:


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21 Dec 2021, 11:37 am

theprisoner wrote:
AprilR wrote:
^Its so hard to maintain distance with people emotionally. I am getting better at it though


I find emotional proximity to be harder to maintain. I can be cold blooded with people quite easily. :shrug:


I think i worded that wrong, i meant boundaries between people, like when someone acts hateful to me i feel their negative feelings about me too intensely. I internalize other people's opinions of me too. (if they think i am x i must be x for certain and so on)



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21 Dec 2021, 12:06 pm

Well, you seem very pleasant. I Like you. If anybody hates on you. It's probably because of jealousy, their own problems, projected on to you. Self-esteem needs to be strengthen and validated and made secure somehow, then you wouldn't internalize negative attitudes of others. Easier said than done.


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21 Dec 2021, 12:08 pm

I don't usually dislike someone unless I have a good reason to. I wouldn't just decide to dislike someone for no reason.


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21 Dec 2021, 12:13 pm

theprisoner wrote:
Well, you seem very pleasant. I Like you. If anybody hates on you. It's probably because of jealousy, their own problems, projected on to you. Self-esteem needs to be strengthen and validated and made secure somehow, then you wouldn't internalize negative attitudes of others. Easier said than done.


Thank you so much for saying that. You are right, people project their issues on others a lot. I am getting better at understanding that and trusting my own perception of situations and people.

Also i don't think you are cold blooded at all, you are kind, smart and friendly.



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21 Dec 2021, 12:17 pm

Joe90 wrote:
I don't usually dislike someone unless I have a good reason to.


That's what i mean. I'm cold blooded to those i don't like, and kind, smart and friendly to those i do like. And to those i have no opinon of, those i'm indifferent, it skews more towards the 'cold blooded' side of things.


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