I hate the baby upstairs

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These new neighbours that have moved in, lo and behold, have a baby. And it is a real crier. Yes I know all babies cry but this baby cries the whole time it's awake, and it has the world's loudest cry as well. Even my boyfriend, a neurotypical who is not noise sensitive and has the ability to ignore noisy neighbour sounds, came out of the bathroom and sighed, "that baby upstairs just doesn't stop crying!" I was in the living-room while he was in the bathroom and I heard the baby crying and it sounded like it was above me, but my boyfriend heard it just as well in the bathroom like it was above him. I don't think they have twins, it's just a very loud baby that can be heard throughout the whole apartment building. My boyfriend has had 3 children and he said they didn't cry as much as that when they were babies, or as loud as that.

It's frustrating because there is nothing I can do about it. You can't stop a baby from crying or turn the volume down...unfortunately. You can't complain, you just got to learn to live with it, which is hard sometimes. And when it gets old enough to walk there'll be a lot more noise, as babies and toddlers stomp when they walk, and they push things along too. And if this baby is a crier there's no doubt it'd probably be a crier until it reaches a few years old.

I think it should be illegal to put couples with babies in upstairs apartments. I wish we could live upstairs but my boyfriend can't because of his knee problems, and most apartment buildings here don't have elevators.

I’d wear noise cancelling headphones or earbuds when I could.

I do but the baby is so loud that you can still it!

Active noise cancelling won't help with that type of noise, the only thing I can suggest that might work is earplugs or earmuffs that are made for really loud noises. I have some made for shooting guns and they're pretty good. If it's super loud you could combine earbuds or earplugs with the earmuffs.
I hope it gets better.

I do if I'm on my own, but when my boyfriend or is there or we have company I need to communicate and so can't always have my ears blocked all the time.

I'm starting to get to know when the brat is asleep so I can go around without any noise-blockers. I have misophonia, which is a real condition, and certain sounds drive me to insanity, and babies crying is one of them. I wish they didn't have a baby.

This is just a random idea, but would it help if you met the baby?
Could you ever spend time with it?
I remember you like babies if not for the noise.
Maybe if you can relate the sound to a real baby that you care about, it might help?
You have a lot of empathy so maybe you'd start to feel concern rather than annoyance?

idk - just a thought.

I wish you could move somewhere that didn't have any upstairs people!

So sorry this is happening to you again after the last people left.

Yes that is a good idea. Usually when I get to know a baby I fall in love with it instead of hating. But it depends on if we develop a relationship with the neighbours or not, as some people like to keep themselves to themselves. Actually my boyfriend is the sort to not get too involved with neighbours.

At least the baby crying doesn't hurt my ears. Low rumbling noise above me is painful, my brain doesn't register it but my ears do and I feel a weird sensation in my ears that sometimes even sets off my vertigo! The woman who lived there before kept opening drawers and it sounded like bowling balls rolling across the floor. These new neighbours don't open drawers so much and they're relatively quiet except sometimes when they sound like a herd of elephants up there but at least it's not all night.

offer to give the baby a bath. then throw it out with the bathwater. Lol its a play on an old saying throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Nothing is worse than neighbors. At my old apartment complex, we had just about every type of thing you could hate: blue collar mechanics working on their cars in the parking lot, several people with dogs and I hate all dogs, a woman with two babies that would cry non stop and this old lady who kept stealing my parking spot.

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I wish they were apartment buildings for people with Autism/Aspergers, people who disabled, the apartment buildings can be super quiet & less noise for people with sensory issues & not soooo expensive. I HATE having an apartment above my head, when the neighbors use the stairs, it feels like a earthquake. I can hear ALOT of things in my living room & bedroom. I have sensory issues.

Good idea, but whoever lives above will sound like elephants, whether they're autistic or not. Sound travels in strange ways. A person upstairs could just be doing some quiet activity that doesn't involve much stomping around and yet could still sound like elephants.

I just think that all apartment buildings should have thick concrete between the floors, not creaky floorboards. Our apartment isn't old at all, and some standard apartment buildings do have concrete floors.

Babies don’t usually cry non stop for no reason.

It’d make me wonder if there was any sort of abuse or neglect going on.

Is that baby crying because they’re hungry or thirsty? Or because they have a dirty diaper that hasn’t been changed? Diaper rash? Some other reason?

It’s very rare that a baby cries non stop for nothing. I hope someone has at least investigated those things to ensure this child is being cared for properly.

It actually doesn't cry as much now. When it does it's only for a short while. But I'm also getting used to it I think.

I'm just dreading when the baby starts walking, because that's when there will be a lot of noise above our heads, as they like to push things along and they stamp their feet as they toddle. And it'd be babbling and shouting a lot.

I love babies if they're my family, but otherwise I don't really like babies much.

Well hopefully they might move out soon. It must be difficult to manage a small child in a small flat with no garden.

I don't think they'll move out until they have another brat, if they do. The baby must be about 6 or 7 months now, and usually by the time the baby begins to sit up and crawl and the parents are in a routine with their feeds and diaper changes, etc, they usually spend less time laying there screaming and more time becoming observant of the world around them and are quite happily distracted by toys. I know I can't speak for all babies but it seems to be the case with all the babies I've ever met. But this one seems to still have that newborn baby sort of cry, and sometimes I worry that it might be neglected, like it's just left in a room in a crib and is crying for its caregivers to get it some attention or something. But I don't know, I can't make judgements and I don't want to interfere as it's not my business.

On the other hand the baby's cries are really starting to grate on my nerves as sometimes it can drone on for hours. It's been screaming up there all afternoon and I'm getting so frustrated with it. Babies crying is one of my misophonia pet peeves and I struggle to feel sympathy when I'm frustrated. I put noise-cancelling earplugs in but I can still hear it. That is the frustrating part. All I want is a little bit of peace. These weirdos upstairs never go out, in the whole 6 months they've been living there we have not seen them once going outside or even coming down the stairs. They're there 24/7. It'll be nice to have a break for once, from their ugly noise.

It's really causing me to become an angry and insensitive person, and it's not in my nature to be angry or insensitive. But I think it just means I've had enough. We would move but it's not as easy as it sounds to get an apartment as cheap as this one we're in now, in this area, and I prefer to stay local. But then again, living in cheap housing usually means you're going to be surrounded by unemployed a**holes with noisy brats they can't look after properly and have no consideration.

God I hate people. If I were rich I'd move to a little cottage surrounded by fields and nature. No f*****g PEOPLE!! !

That's not good, sorry you are having to deal with this

Yes. I was just thinking that. I hope the baby is being treated well and is happy. A baby crying very loudly for long periods of time is not normal.

Often neighbours are very useful when possible abuse is going on. They can raise the alarm when no one else cares. You may find the police or social workers coming round to ask you if you heard anything out of the ordinary. I hope not, but it happens.