1001 Things Not To Do Around NTs...

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It's still a good generalization to know, I remember people who didn't care what you had to say, I'd call it competitive talking for a lack of better terms. It really seems like one-upmanship around certian types. Of course some people look at communication in a more functional way or just want it to be more meaningful, but some people just like to bs and if you can enjoy some bs, then you're doing fine. Either way, I'm convinced that self affirmation is at the root of socialization.

I hate that question. Why ask if you don't want to know, sheesh.


- (Sorry can't resist) Don't expect and Aspie and and NT to have sarcasm born in the same universe as one another. Someone's going to get offended and the other will have no idea why

- Don't not talk. Seems to make them paranoid.
- Don't talk too much. I really wish they'd make up there mind, argh!
- Don't let them know that the current sound, sight, feel, smell w/e is really getting to you. Fake it for all you're worth.
- Don't try to explain why the feel of lettuce in your mouth or that crunch from pickles want to make you puke; just say your allergic to it. Oddly they find some bizarre allergy more reasonable than a common disorder.
-(not sure if this counts) Don't laugh at thing coming from your iPod/MP3 player/or whatever while at work. My two favorite fiction podcasts do a joint feedback episode every few weeks and it is the funniest thing ever, especially the inside jokes derived from all the cookies only real fans pick up. The girl in the desk that faces mine always gives me the weirdest looks when I laugh, even if its just a quiet giggle. Maybe my laugh is just weird


This one made me smile. My best friend and I used to do a helen keller sort of this when I'd get overloaded in a crowd and have our conversations by spelling or signing it out in each others hands.

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- Don't expect majority of them to get where the joke was there.
- Don't panick

I tell people I'm allergic to show-tunes, meetings, phones, and such, and they accept it. They understand allergies, so they can extend the concept to similar aversions without needing to make new categories.

I like that allergic to show tunes My psycho Grandmother used to sing "76 Trombones" from Music Man and I want to pound something if I hear it.

I have read this quote on this forum many times: "When you meet an Aspie, you have met one Aspie." Aspies don't appreciate being stereotyped. No surprise. Well, though it may not seem like it sometimes, the same principle applies to NTs as well.

But yet this doesn't totally feel fair to say. When you have no way to perceive individual differences in people, you have to come up with some kind of rules of thumb to help you predict others behaviors. Its frustrating.

I love you

I have experienced all of those repeatedly as well

You're gay and you don't like show tunes?????? WTF????? Does this mean I can come out of the closet,.... and admit,........... I do?

Bloody hell, I've lost count now.

oh.....snap. I've probably done eighty percent of these things mentioned. Especially the book thing. Is it really considered rude to read a book around someone or not participate when someone has guests over. (even though you don't want to talk?) There were a lot of people that came over to my graduation and I wasn't interested in them and some of them I didn't know really well. My mom always nags me to come join them and talk (with any guests that we have). I never understood why, all I can ever do is sit there not knowing what to do, so why don't I just do something productive instead?

I had a guy once express real resentment at me for bringing a book to a bar. Sometimes you want to be around people but not interact. I didn't even know the guy, but he was highly offended that I wasn't playing by the rules. I truly don't understand why he thought that was any of his business.

Sometimes people just get frustrated. I mean he may have had a difficult time with social interaction himself. I've personally tried approaching people only to get blown off or ignored in a similar manner. Not to say you can't read in a bar and tune everyone out, it's a free country here and you can do whatever you like. People can also dog you out for doing stuff they don't like,

Wow. I never thought about that. I growl a lot. I think I'll start paying attention to that, and trying to do something else.

Thanks.

In my experience, that depends upon whether the NT person is an introvert, or an extrovert. If the NT is an introvert, your attempt to converse with him might very well be taken as annoyance in much the same way you would respond to someone treating you that way. I am inclined to think that the response that you are discussing here might be more about you being an introvert, than it is about you being an Aspie, though being an Aspie may intensify things a bit, I don't know.

Actually, the trick is to NOT answer the question they asked. For example, answering the question "Does this make me look fat?" is a no-win situation. When asked this, respond something like "You always look beautiful to me."


The other person doesn't even neccessarily need to be NT to be freaked out/irritated by it...