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09 Sep 2015, 4:50 pm

Yeah, and I was really pissed off about 6 July this year too, as that was the date I met Laura in 2005. Tart or not, that date felt kind of 'sacred' to me being that she was somebody I kind of loved, and I spent that date this year in jail. It was something I pondered about for a long time, due to 2015 being 10 years after 2005. Very weird. 8O

When I called the office to find out if my bank still sends mail there, I told a guy I was in jail and all he said was 'that'll teach you'.

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09 Sep 2015, 7:56 pm

Any of these women who googled your name and read what you had written - especially about the prostitutes etc - would run a mile, whatever their circumstance of meeting you was, casual, or support and care workers.

You don't seem to realise that. (Yet). Maybe you will (good), maybe you wont (sad).

They very likely read everything they could find to assess whether you were a safe person to be around. All of them would have concluded that you are not, and would pass that information on to their supervisors, and take standard protection actions as per protocols for care workers and others. Your poor boundaries are part of your stalking and they would pick up on that very fast. You have problems. You will continue to have problems until the day you say: "I need help" instead of endless self-justification about your inappropriate behaviours in the past. Either you take responsibility for your past actions or you stay stuck and end up you know where.



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09 Sep 2015, 8:46 pm

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Any of these women who googled your name and read what you had written - especially about the prostitutes etc - would run a mile, whatever their circumstance of meeting you was, casual, or support and care workers.

You don't seem to realise that. (Yet). Maybe you will (good), maybe you wont (sad).

They very likely read everything they could find to assess whether you were a safe person to be around. All of them would have concluded that you are not, and would pass that information on to their supervisors, and take standard protection actions as per protocols for care workers and others. Your poor boundaries are part of your stalking and they would pick up on that very fast. You have problems. You will continue to have problems until the day you say: "I need help" instead of endless self-justification about your inappropriate behaviours in the past. Either you take responsibility for your past actions or you stay stuck and end up you know where.


Actually you're right. I never thought of that. Peter, they may be reading what you say online including over here and they may have all kinds of paperwork on you dude that builds a profile on you.



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10 Sep 2015, 2:34 am

Well, Sara chummed me to a sexual health clinic once during a shift and I described what I had done with women. She seemed offended and said she did not have to know what I was doing with women, although she previously said there was nothing wrong with seeing escorts. Maybe in Spain, she was one herself. Who knows?

I am also pretty sure I linked her to Encyclopedia Dramatica once, probably for to gain her sympathy. It is hard to remember with all this being a long time ago. That, plus losing Joanna earlier in the year and Robert being a snitch, and me putting my hand on her shoulder when she upset me on the bus, probably created a cocktail of major discomfort for her, but to be honest, nobody on their end dealt with things right at all. Then with me reacting badly to the lies and being racist in a message to her, I made things much worse, so she has been venomous because of what I said. However, the seniors did stitch me up. There is no getting out of me not admitting to them being correct in doing so. We could have had a talk and who knows? Maybe, just maybe, I could have gotten both my workers back and also still been in my flat, with no charges and all my support people back on the same page again.

When I tried to reach out to Sara afterwards, all the seniors did was disable her work e-mail address, which no company ever does over just one client. They knew I was in deep. They knew it was going to be Laura all over again.



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12 Sep 2015, 9:01 am

Guess what? My piggy pals come back on Thursday there. This was due to a charge from May which they miraculously overlooked, but I took fright and ran off. Now, I have court in a matter of days so I am worried nonetheless. It was meant to be smooth sailing until Tuesday. But they scared me and I due to this, have broken the curfew rules. Oh darn! I am also sleeping rough and my feet have blisters. :(

Are holes. :x



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12 Sep 2015, 9:05 am

Sorry. Samsung phones even block British swear words. I am in Costa charging up my mobile and using their y Fi which comes up as wiki. :(

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12 Sep 2015, 9:34 am

...What's " comes up as wiki " mean , Peter ?
I'm sorry for what happened ~ Best :| .
I've just sent an E-mail too - It's about 7:30 here in SF , would it be 4:30 at your end (You're in Glasgow ?) ?



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12 Sep 2015, 9:44 am

Edinburgh, in fact. Yeah, it is 15:43 here.



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12 Sep 2015, 9:54 am

...Oh , OK . I do have a friend in Edinburgh ~ However , he hasn't even contacted me back when I wrote him on Facebook PM a fewish days ago , he's pretty , by his own description , out of touch . Best !



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12 Sep 2015, 10:07 am

Less than 4 quid left. Coffee joints rip you off and a day ticket is now £4 too. What a total carry on...

Need to hold out for 3 more awful days, too. I will go to court then of my own accord.
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12 Sep 2015, 10:21 am

...A day ticket on the bus/city transport , you mean :( ?
Perhaps you're replied to my more recent E-mail , I'll check it and then go for my bed/breakfast/my morning IV antibiotics...



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12 Sep 2015, 10:30 am

Yes. £4 for Lothian and Borders. Total daylight robbery, I know. My bus pass gets me on a bus in Scotland for free but the prison drivers left my stuff behind . I do not have the 'one plus' Young Scot card anymore. They would not renew that.



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12 Sep 2015, 10:37 am

Anyway, I just spent nearly £2 in Costa on a sticky lemon muffin. These particular places should be renamed Costly. :D

I am unsure about asking for any more money as my family will want paid back. I also have to go to the front door as well to see them and the pigs can show up at any time, and if I ran that risk and they come, they come with wheels. Kill them all! :twisted:



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12 Sep 2015, 11:31 am

PeterHoping44 wrote:
Well, Sara chummed me to a sexual health clinic once during a shift and I described what I had done with women. She seemed offended and said she did not have to know what I was doing with women, although she previously said there was nothing wrong with seeing escorts. Maybe in Spain, she was one herself. Who knows?

I am also pretty sure I linked her to Encyclopedia Dramatica once, probably for to gain her sympathy. It is hard to remember with all this being a long time ago. That, plus losing Joanna earlier in the year and Robert being a snitch, and me putting my hand on her shoulder when she upset me on the bus, probably created a cocktail of major discomfort for her, but to be honest, nobody on their end dealt with things right at all. Then with me reacting badly to the lies and being racist in a message to her, I made things much worse, so she has been venomous because of what I said. However, the seniors did stitch me up. There is no getting out of me not admitting to them being correct in doing so. We could have had a talk and who knows? Maybe, just maybe, I could have gotten both my workers back and also still been in my flat, with no charges and all my support people back on the same page again.

When I tried to reach out to Sara afterwards, all the seniors did was disable her work e-mail address, which no company ever does over just one client. They knew I was in deep. They knew it was going to be Laura all over again.


Woah there, you were racist in a message to her.....perhaps that would explain her being 'venomous' because of what you said. Racism is not something people usually just over-look, if I was a support worker and my client made racist remarks to me because I didn't want to 'date' them but they decided they were in love with me I'd probably have a hard time not being a bit nasty to them myself. You can't expect everyone to want to just sit down and talk with you when you behave inappropriately....if you deeply hurt/offend someone they are not obligated to sit down and discuss anything with you or even give you a second chance.

There is no maybe, just maybe you could have gotten your support workers back...no once things started getting nasty on your part that guaranteed not getting the same support workers back. And well quite frankly not sure if its the same in the U.K but here support workers/therapists and such aren't allowed to date their patients/clients...So the support worker/therapist would either have to go into a different line of work, or at least not be a support worker/therapist for their significant other. So the whole you falling in love with the support workers by itself would have complicated things....perhaps the agency and these women could have been more clear about the rules and communicated more clearly when they felt your behavior was problematic.

But even then if that occurred and you didn't go off the deep end sending nasty messages and refusing to leave them alone the support workers still may have wanted to stop working with you because maybe they don't know how to keep boundaries intact with a client/patient that is in love with them....or they had no interest in dating you so akward going to work for someone you feel is going to be making attempts to get with you when you don't want that and can't date clients even if you do want to.


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12 Sep 2015, 11:52 am

Yes. I regret that. I was really angry. I do think that was out of order. But that does not change my current situation (like being shafted) and it could not have happened at a worser time, with court coming up soon. But knowing my luck, maybe it could be worser still. While I did act up, the staff don't care about me now. Not giving my letters to the right people was not cool.

Their attitude blows. And by the way, the days are getting colder. :(



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12 Sep 2015, 12:22 pm

Costly as I like to call it, we'll it is closing soon. No net access thereafter. Talk to ya all pretty soon, huh? :o