PeterHoping44 wrote:
Well, Sara chummed me to a sexual health clinic once during a shift and I described what I had done with women. She seemed offended and said she did not have to know what I was doing with women, although she previously said there was nothing wrong with seeing escorts. Maybe in Spain, she was one herself. Who knows?
I am also pretty sure I linked her to Encyclopedia Dramatica once, probably for to gain her sympathy. It is hard to remember with all this being a long time ago. That, plus losing Joanna earlier in the year and Robert being a snitch, and me putting my hand on her shoulder when she upset me on the bus, probably created a cocktail of major discomfort for her, but to be honest, nobody on their end dealt with things right at all. Then with me reacting badly to the lies and being racist in a message to her, I made things much worse, so she has been venomous because of what I said. However, the seniors did stitch me up. There is no getting out of me not admitting to them being correct in doing so. We could have had a talk and who knows? Maybe, just maybe, I could have gotten both my workers back and also still been in my flat, with no charges and all my support people back on the same page again.
When I tried to reach out to Sara afterwards, all the seniors did was disable her work e-mail address, which no company ever does over just one client. They knew I was in deep. They knew it was going to be Laura all over again.
Woah there, you were racist in a message to her.....perhaps that would explain her being 'venomous' because of what you said. Racism is not something people usually just over-look, if I was a support worker and my client made racist remarks to me because I didn't want to 'date' them but they decided they were in love with me I'd probably have a hard time not being a bit nasty to them myself. You can't expect everyone to want to just sit down and talk with you when you behave inappropriately....if you deeply hurt/offend someone they are not obligated to sit down and discuss anything with you or even give you a second chance.
There is no maybe, just maybe you could have gotten your support workers back...no once things started getting nasty on your part that guaranteed not getting the same support workers back. And well quite frankly not sure if its the same in the U.K but here support workers/therapists and such aren't allowed to date their patients/clients...So the support worker/therapist would either have to go into a different line of work, or at least not be a support worker/therapist for their significant other. So the whole you falling in love with the support workers by itself would have complicated things....perhaps the agency and these women could have been more clear about the rules and communicated more clearly when they felt your behavior was problematic.
But even then if that occurred and you didn't go off the deep end sending nasty messages and refusing to leave them alone the support workers still may have wanted to stop working with you because maybe they don't know how to keep boundaries intact with a client/patient that is in love with them....or they had no interest in dating you so akward going to work for someone you feel is going to be making attempts to get with you when you don't want that and can't date clients even if you do want to.
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