Why does no one want me to have a relationship?

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Thanks! No one who was ever knocked down ever one the prize if they stayed down -- you gotta get back up and fight, fight, fight!

As far as resumes and jobs are concerned:

I have never been hired on the basis of a resume. I've been rejected because of my resume (primarily because of my age). Resumes could mean something----but they could also mean nada. Many people with impressive resumes turn out to be duds once they actually start on a job.

When people actually saw me, and gave me a chance, I impressed enough (in temp agencies), that I was, invariably, sent out the next day after I took the tests. I didn't submit one resume at all in the 1980s. I just filled out applications, and showed up for interviews, and took tests.

It would be easy enough to rephrase a bunch of MGTOW stuff, which I think mostly goes too far really, but instead I'll say: I'm sorry you're going through this. I myself either hope for my ex-wife to finally return while I am still single or maybe someday marry a friend I had a crush on from before I knew of my ex-wife (but never sought a romantic relationship with because she was out of my league, even though otherwise we're ideally matched with her being an ENFP and me being an INTJ, as well as equally yoked with both of us having basically the same religious and political views. However, she has more college than I do and was far more attractive physically, so it seemed pointless to bother back when we were both single.) I don't know what advice I could give which hasn't already been given most likely, but I sympathize with your plight though.

Nobody is ever totally out of "anybody's league."

I saw a couple the other day where the guy was pretty ugly, and the woman was pretty attractive. They were really getting it on!

I've also seen a guy who was really fat with a skinny girlfriend at the local college. He even made her rice krispie treats and patted her on the head. He was and did everything the opposite of what I was told to do if I wanted a girlfriend.

A patron who is nice to me asked me why don't I just try to achieve a greater quality of life instead of wanting a girlfriend? I told her I just feel so depressed being single and I can't stop thinking about it. She looked sad when I told her this.

You've got to listen to other people, Mark. It's important that you do.

If I just listened to myself, I would have been in big trouble a long time ago....

I'm thinking of leaving the forums again. I used to want to prove my detractors wrong but the hope of ever posting a success story feels so dim.

A lot of peoples on the forum don't have success stories you know, you're not alone in not being able to build a life; such as me.

Imagine how cool it would be if you ditched the forum for the timebeing, used the saved time on something productive and then came back after you had gotten a girlfriend or some new skill with that spared time!

Well stated. And Marknis (take this lightly too) u better not let ur brain’s depression turn this into a negative criticism

because she did her best to frame it extremely nicely and was being encouraging n sincere !
I should listen to her too

But what if things don't get better and I never come back? Will anyone wonder how I am or will they be glad I am gone?

Why do you give a damn about it?

Why do you care what people here think ? It's difficult but you need to stop worrying about what others think , this seems to be the key of your unhappiness. Be yourself , be proud and don't give a f**k what others think.

Exactly. What does it matter whatever anyone on here thinks?

especially him ^