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28 May 2015, 3:42 pm
sly279 wrote:
why would they do that?
good question.
I don't even think relationship counselors know the answer to that one.
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29 May 2015, 1:33 am
sly279 wrote:
I just need to die. all I see even here is how worthless I am. I hate money I'm too fat and never be skinny enough. I'll never earn enough. I'm ugly as f**k. death is the only solution and is freedom.
I know about how money is cruel. it never sticks around, always tries to empty one's wallet when one bill leaves and drags the others along with it. you are not alone, lots of us here also find ourselves in a situation where we don't feel like we fit anywhere.
29 May 2015, 2:10 am
auntblabby wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I just need to die. all I see even here is how worthless I am. I hate money I'm too fat and never be skinny enough. I'll never earn enough. I'm ugly as f**k. death is the only solution and is freedom.
I know about how money is cruel. it never sticks around, always tries to empty one's wallet when one bill leaves and drags the others along with it. you are not alone, lots of us here also find ourselves in a situation where we don't feel like we fit anywhere.not its not that. its that women expect a guy to have it and if you don't have tons you're worthless trash and doens't deserve to live.
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29 May 2015, 2:40 am
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sly279 wrote:
not its not that. its that women expect a guy to have it and if you don't have tons you're worthless trash and doens't deserve to live.
ok, time for a thought experiment- how would you feel, if you suddenly got money and women started glomming onto you, and you got married and things were going good until one day you got fired, no more high-paying jobs forthcoming, just mickey-D's at minimum wage, and after some financial hard times your mate left you- how would you feel? would you wish that you'd never met this person in the first place? this is one of the major reasons why so many marriages in America end in divorce. so before one sees the grass as greener on the other side of the fence, ponder whether or not you want to be in a relationship that is so conditional upon material things. would you not rather be in a relationship that was UN-conditional? meaning one could be the natural way one is, not wealthy, not model-handsome and not a don juan yet still loved and wanted and stuck-with? IOW the mates who would turn down a good man due to not enough material success on his part, have basically enabled you to dodge a bullet. looking on the bright side of it, you have already managed to avoid some bad choices and the severe unhappiness that come with those bad choices. the bad part is, that there are so comparatively few people not motivated by material concerns in this country.
that'd be fine if there were any women who would date me as is. but as many here point out and as dating sites and forums and other sites show. women all care about a mans income.
as anwser to your thought question I won't date if I do manage to get a high paying job. I'll know its just the money they care about and tell them to f**k off after sex. worlds a f****d up s**t might as well join it.
but that won't happen. I can't even get a min wage job. no one will hire me because I lack expeirnece which I can't gert wihtout someone hiring me. voc rehab spent all this money getting me the certifications and it means s**t.
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29 May 2015, 2:47 am
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as anwser to your thought question I won't date if I do manage to get a high paying job. I'll know its just the money they care about and tell them to f**k off after sex. worlds a f****d up s**t might as well join it. but that won't happen. I can't even get a min wage job. no one will hire me because I lack expeirnece which I can't gert wihtout someone hiring me. voc rehab spent all this money getting me the certifications and it means s**t.
I know this means little to you, but I was in the same situation when I was young also, DSHS and DVR tried to place me only none of it stuck, I just didn't fit into any civvy jobs- and my only escape was uncle sam's army which was #1 on my list of things not to do, but it was still better than the alternative-homelessness and eventual oblivion. not saying that is in your future, but I was relatively lucky in that the army was taking in people who were otherwise unemployable and who were old [I was in my 20s when I was inducted, and there was a 39 year old new inductee in my basic training class]. I do hope you find your own way out of your situation that keeps you living and with us here!
29 May 2015, 2:54 am
auntblabby wrote:
sly279 wrote:
as anwser to your thought question I won't date if I do manage to get a high paying job. I'll know its just the money they care about and tell them to f**k off after sex. worlds a f****d up s**t might as well join it. but that won't happen. I can't even get a min wage job. no one will hire me because I lack expeirnece which I can't gert wihtout someone hiring me. voc rehab spent all this money getting me the certifications and it means s**t.
I know this means little to you, but I was in the same situation when I was young also, DSHS and DVR tried to place me only none of it stuck, I just didn't fit into any civvy jobs- and my only escape was uncle sam's army which was #1 on my list of things not to do, but it was still better than the alternative-homelessness and eventual oblivion. not saying that is in your future, but I was relatively lucky in that the army was taking in people who were otherwise unemployable and who were old [I was in my 20s when I was inducted, and there was a 39 year old new inductee in my basic training class]. I do hope you find your own way out of your situation that keeps you living and with us here!
all I wanted was to go fight and die, but I can't join the miltary.
wish goldfish would leave me alone I already know how horrible I am I wish I could kill myself but I can't. i might just get drunk and try.
its all my fault. so just let me die people. worthless people don't deserve to live I know that. I'm not one with the masses so I wrong and not suppose to live.
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29 May 2015, 3:14 am
I for one, want you to stick around. us aspies gotta stick together! sometimes it is a matter of saying to oneself, "OK - today, I will stick around and see what happens." because who knows what will happen tomorrow?
29 May 2015, 3:34 am
