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26 Jun 2009, 6:09 pm

Ana54 wrote:
Don`t punish yourself. Punish the people who make you feel bad about making mistakes or not being good at things or misbehaving. They should not be doing that to you.


I don't know about the OPer, but since what he's doing sounds similar to how I feel sometimes, I'll just throw this out there. I don't hit myself in the head as a form of self-punishment, but I do it in the sense that it just plainly physically feels good to hit that certain spot whenever I'm stressed, almost as if it was a massage of somekind as weird as that sounds.

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26 Jun 2009, 10:51 pm

Ana54 wrote:
Don`t punish yourself. Punish the people who make you feel bad about making mistakes or not being good at things or misbehaving. They should not be doing that to you.


I'm strictly non-violent. I just cannot bring myself to hurt anyone else. Plus it's usually my fault I feel that way.



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30 Jun 2009, 1:19 pm

I hit myself when I'm drunk lol. :salut:



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28 Jul 2009, 5:15 am

Update: I been doing a lot better about hitting myself. I still do get the urge to do it, but once I raise my hand, I immediately stop. I've been stimming more often and I haven't been as stressful as I've been. Thank you all very much for your replies and support.



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28 Jul 2009, 7:43 am

Your not the only who has done this.

I remember when I used to get frustrated, I used to punch my fists until they were red and sore. Then I took up drumming, so when I feel angry, I just pound the crap out of my kit...in rhythm of course.

I suggest you take up a hobby like boxing, or something that involves acting with your fists, rather than against them.

I'm glad your making progress though. :D



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02 Aug 2009, 7:28 pm

AtomicKaiju wrote:
mikemmlj wrote:
Can you explain a little more why you hit yourself?


I hit myself when I get frustrated, usually by not being able to accomplish something, like a challenge in a video game, writing an essay during high school, or not being able to do something that everyone else can do easily.

I also hit myself when I do something wrong (misbehaving or making a mistake), because I feel like I should punish myself this way. I guess I get those thoughts when I get stressed out for my wrong doing.

Now that I think about it, I also hit myself when I hear people laughing or yelling at me in my thoughts. I might be a schizo, but when I say I am, either no one believes me or I'm saying it wrong.

Sorry for not giving details. I guess I needed time to realize every reason why I pound my head, or punch my face. Any advice on how not to hit myself would be great fully appreciated.


I can remember doing this from a young age. not often but it has occurred over my lifetime. Started at not being able to accomplish something and now when disappointed at not performing at something I know or believe I'm capable of. I don't have any advice but that I don't want you to feel the anguish in this which is the awful part for me. (for all here as well) After doing some psyche readings it makes sense to me that there is some underdeveloped maternal aspect to my personality that leads to a strong disapproving (paternal) critical view of myself when I fail at something.