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02 Jul 2009, 11:43 am

Yea, fast food is a great place for sarcasm. You just have to watch out for the drama (you'll know who they are), you'll just be working your ass off when some pretty young thing comes in and starts whining that you aren't working fast enough because her customers have been complaining and they're not giving her better tips. That's when you go sarcastic on them. They aren't gonna fire you because no one else wants to work fastfood (I'm talking about the sonic work structure).

I can tell you from expereince that sonic is the most hellish place for a cook to work, absolutely no gratitude for what you do, piss poor pay, and a noticable income gap because those carhops take in all the tips. On the days that any managers had the balls to step up to me, I didn't have to try to hard to take them back down a notch, I wasn't a smooth talker either, I was just so genuinely pissed that they figured I'd hit them with a skillet if they kept talking to me. I'd never work there again, but I'll always remember that place when I think about hating my new jobs.



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02 Jul 2009, 6:19 pm

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Yea, fast food is a great place for sarcasm. You just have to watch out for the drama (you'll know who they are), you'll just be working your ass off when some pretty young thing comes in and starts whining that you aren't working fast enough because her customers have been complaining and they're not giving her better tips. That's when you go sarcastic on them. They aren't gonna fire you because no one else wants to work fastfood (I'm talking about the sonic work structure).

I can tell you from expereince that sonic is the most hellish place for a cook to work, absolutely no gratitude for what you do, piss poor pay, and a noticable income gap because those carhops take in all the tips. On the days that any managers had the balls to step up to me, I didn't have to try to hard to take them back down a notch, I wasn't a smooth talker either, I was just so genuinely pissed that they figured I'd hit them with a skillet if they kept talking to me. I'd never work there again, but I'll always remember that place when I think about hating my new jobs.


Sadly, I don't live up north. And I was thinking fast food because I know I'm a loser. Besides, the funny thing is, I'll probably be kind instead and I'd get Kudos for it, or not, depending on whether they care, but I can only hope my caring dissipates and I get the gall to be sarcastic, but why not if I'll feel great having my own worthless chumps to torment?



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02 Jul 2009, 7:10 pm

You are ripe for some fastfood work, you'll just have to be careful and not get attached to the otheres (you'll meet people who have worked there for years, some people just can't let go). I lived in texas when I was working there, but the same concept is in place, you have some guy your age who's on a power trip because he just got promoted to kitchen chief or some cocky title, some female who will attract all the sexual attention and make all the guys act like real baboons. The old timer who tries hard not to let anyone walk all over them (I leave them alone), and some manager who has his own life problems and probably hangs out on the internet all day to make sure the store isn't burning down. The movie "waiting" accurately portrays the sarcasm but it gives the job too much glamorization. You'd make a great new guy, the new guy doesn't know sh!t and he doesn't have to take any for not knowing how to do one of the most menial jobs in history, you try all kinds of angles in a faast food joint. Just remember that if you do a good job even once, they expect you to keep doing it, I did my best and I'd get harrassed by the entire store when I lost my wind (kind of like I had to keep up everyones pace).

Take me to a year after the fastfood hell, and I'm in the army pulling a 17 hour KP from 0350- some time in the afternoon (this was years ago). Was it hell? It sure was! Did I hate it? No, I hated sonic, at least I had my dignity in the army.

Please note that you don't have to take things in my direction, I'm on the extreme side sometimes.



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03 Jul 2009, 4:44 am

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You are ripe for some fastfood work, you'll just have to be careful and not get attached to the otheres (you'll meet people who have worked there for years, some people just can't let go). I lived in texas when I was working there, but the same concept is in place, you have some guy your age who's on a power trip because he just got promoted to kitchen chief or some cocky title, some female who will attract all the sexual attention and make all the guys act like real baboons. The old timer who tries hard not to let anyone walk all over them (I leave them alone), and some manager who has his own life problems and probably hangs out on the internet all day to make sure the store isn't burning down. The movie "waiting" accurately portrays the sarcasm but it gives the job too much glamorization. You'd make a great new guy, the new guy doesn't know sh!t and he doesn't have to take any for not knowing how to do one of the most menial jobs in history, you try all kinds of angles in a faast food joint. Just remember that if you do a good job even once, they expect you to keep doing it, I did my best and I'd get harrassed by the entire store when I lost my wind (kind of like I had to keep up everyones pace).

Take me to a year after the fastfood hell, and I'm in the army pulling a 17 hour KP from 0350- some time in the afternoon (this was years ago). Was it hell? It sure was! Did I hate it? No, I hated sonic, at least I had my dignity in the army.

Please note that you don't have to take things in my direction, I'm on the extreme side sometimes.


I got my eye bashed in during a horrible fight with my sister. I then got threatened with jail, but hey, jail seems better than where I live (she claims it's worse, haha!) >:)

No one cares, I still want to be more bitter to the point of numbness, but I cannot achieve numbness. Maybe I should go to war and get killed or go insane.

I noticed you were extreme, as my mom said what you told me were "fables".



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03 Jul 2009, 8:27 am

Oh, I promise you that I've done what I'm owning up to. Of course there's a tamer side to it (I'm usually just mellow about stuff), but I've gone from place to place and seen a few things. Unfortunately, the laptop with all my pics got stolen some time ago (teach you to leave a door unlocked), so all I have are some basic records. My official fast food record says that I left for "personal reasons", the true story is a little worse and I'm better off just letting the paperwork explain it.

It sounds like your family is trying to control you (big time). I wouldn't doubt that they're genuinely concerned for you, but they might not realize that the controlling behavior they're engaging in can be worse than real life (please note that I haven't spent a day in prison and have nothing insightful in that area). My take is that when your family tries too hard to control you, you're in a good position to just get out (you don't need to actually move though) and get exposed to more people, it really helps you to understand where they're coming from. I'm a slow learner in that area, but my hindsight is excellent and you can always look for a way to put yourself in a better situation.

I think if you just find a good way to get out, your folks will come around to understanding that you knew what was best for a change, it can be hard for you if they don't understand, but I don't get the feeling you should depend on them for the understanding part.



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03 Jul 2009, 10:20 am

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Oh, I promise you that I've done what I'm owning up to. Of course there's a tamer side to it (I'm usually just mellow about stuff), but I've gone from place to place and seen a few things. Unfortunately, the laptop with all my pics got stolen some time ago (teach you to leave a door unlocked), so all I have are some basic records. My official fast food record says that I left for "personal reasons", the true story is a little worse and I'm better off just letting the paperwork explain it.

It sounds like your family is trying to control you (big time). I wouldn't doubt that they're genuinely concerned for you, but they might not realize that the controlling behavior they're engaging in can be worse than real life (please note that I haven't spent a day in prison and have nothing insightful in that area). My take is that when your family tries too hard to control you, you're in a good position to just get out (you don't need to actually move though) and get exposed to more people, it really helps you to understand where they're coming from. I'm a slow learner in that area, but my hindsight is excellent and you can always look for a way to put yourself in a better situation.

I think if you just find a good way to get out, your folks will come around to understanding that you knew what was best for a change, it can be hard for you if they don't understand, but I don't get the feeling you should depend on them for the understanding part.


Yes, but WHERE WILL I GO?! ! I have no place to go! I should just find a homeless shelter or something. *cries buckets*

(P.S. I'm still looking for that mean love partner that will make my family look like saints.)



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03 Jul 2009, 12:28 pm

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Yes, but WHERE WILL I GO?! ! I have no place to go! I should just find a homeless shelter or something. *cries buckets*


You might try to contact the Red Cross. They have nice temporary homes for young people. I directed my daughter to one of those after she had a clash with my wife (her mother). It was really a comfortable place, and I hope they have something like that where you live.

It's OK to cry. Let it all come out. I hope you'll feel better after a while.



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03 Jul 2009, 5:22 pm

You could probably use a sigil to help alter your personality.
You'll have to look them up on google because WP wont let a newbie like me post links to other websites.



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03 Jul 2009, 5:32 pm

[quote="Fickle_Pickle"]Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks.[/q]
Only one way possible, force your emotions. I see, you're a girl, that explains alot.



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08 Jul 2009, 9:43 am

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(P.S. I'm still looking for that mean love partner that will make my family look like saints.)



Ugh. No you don't. Trust me.
I know the type, and they'll destroy everything important in your life that you have left, if not isolate you from everyone you've ever known.

(not from personal experience, but someone I know is in this situation... I'm one of the very few that they can talk to)


You say that you've got a lot of 'bitchiness'. Use it. Someone annoy you? Put them down for it. Being a b***h means that you're better than them. Learning to be a b***h means learning to feel good about yourself.

And if you aren't a b***h, then you're unfairly letting them put you down and make you feel bad about yourself.


Either way, you need to build a better self-image.



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08 Jul 2009, 1:06 pm

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Fickle_Pickle wrote:
(P.S. I'm still looking for that mean love partner that will make my family look like saints.)



Ugh. No you don't. Trust me.
I know the type, and they'll destroy everything important in your life that you have left, if not isolate you from everyone you've ever known.

(not from personal experience, but someone I know is in this situation... I'm one of the very few that they can talk to)


You say that you've got a lot of 'bitchiness'. Use it. Someone annoy you? Put them down for it. Being a b***h means that you're better than them. Learning to be a b***h means learning to feel good about yourself.

And if you aren't a b***h, then you're unfairly letting them put you down and make you feel bad about yourself.


Either way, you need to build a better self-image.


Unfortunatley, I'm not bitchy in public and I'm only so when I'm very upset or angry, or when I'm having hormonal mood swings, which is often, concerning my family life, but only towards them, but they usually OWN me when it comes to put-downs, besides there is no one else to put down because I have no social life and I'm not all that witty, and another thing, I am not the putting down-type of b***h, I am the WHINING type.

And yes, yes I do want that kind of love partner, how can I not when meanness makes me tingly?



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08 Jul 2009, 2:00 pm

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Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks.

I am speculating here. You are very emotionally sensitive, and your feelings get hurt very easily, and you are tired of your feelings being wounded all the time, and you think that if you could somehow just not give a rip, you could function in this world better, and I expect it looks that way from this side of the fence. (ie. the grass always looks greener on the other side etc.)

Well here is what I do. I too am hyper emotionally sensitive. I don't know if what I do will work for you. I try to keep my eyes off of myself. I try to use my emotional sensitivity to benefit others around me, look for ways to show kindness, or whatever, and try to refrain from whining, which I manage to fall back into from time to time anyway. And when my feelings get wounded, I step back and Analise the situation to make certain that I did nothing to bring it upon myself, and if so, I try to learn from the experience.

Without anymore specifics, its rather hard to advise you.



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08 Jul 2009, 3:03 pm

Well, it's hopeless, as my feelings own me. I guess we should just close this subject and I can go into town to the medical marijuana clinic. Besides, I'm focusing on self-emotional detatchment, and I really have no idea how that works, and if you're thinking "repress, repress, repress" then I don't know how to do that either and I'm probably too old. But the ironic thing is I act about four years too young for my age.



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08 Jul 2009, 5:17 pm

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Well, it's hopeless, as my feelings own me. I guess we should just close this subject and I can go into town to the medical marijuana clinic. Besides, I'm focusing on self-emotional detatchment, and I really have no idea how that works, and if you're thinking "repress, repress, repress" then I don't know how to do that either and I'm probably too old. But the ironic thing is I act about four years too young for my age.

I think you're focusing on emotional detachment a bit much, as though you're trying to use brute force to learn how to do it. You're looking for someone to tell you the direct and unequivocal way how to do that, but it's something that you just have to work through, taking a lot of time and making a lot of mistakes. That's how it is and that's how it'll always be.

I'm sure you're a lot stronger than you think you are. You just have to get out there and not think about it too much and convince yourself of it.


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08 Jul 2009, 8:02 pm

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Well, it's hopeless, as my feelings own me. I guess we should just close this subject and I can go into town to the medical marijuana clinic. Besides, I'm focusing on self-emotional detatchment, and I really have no idea how that works, and if you're thinking "repress, repress, repress" then I don't know how to do that either and I'm probably too old. But the ironic thing is I act about four years too young for my age.

I think you're focusing on emotional detachment a bit much, as though you're trying to use brute force to learn how to do it. You're looking for someone to tell you the direct and unequivocal way how to do that, but it's something that you just have to work through, taking a lot of time and making a lot of mistakes. That's how it is and that's how it'll always be.

I'm sure you're a lot stronger than you think you are. You just have to get out there and not think about it too much and convince yourself of it.


But... I want to know what path to take. Also I'm too old for "something that you just have to work through, taking a lot of time and making a lot of mistakes", but I guess by the time I get to do ANYTHING, I will be old :cry: . I won't look like it anyway, since I currently don't look a day past 15. I'm also tired of feeling so young, I envy those who feel old.



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12 Jul 2009, 9:59 pm

Yeah I know what you mean. I feel I should work on being more cold and callous myself. Though i may not want to be better just less caring and more cruel.