Why does everyone always have to think it's sexual?

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They tried to get you once and failed.

Nobody EVER believes in innocence.

Michael Jackson was probably innocent but most people don't think so.
The same goes for Lindsey Chamberlain (the Australian "Dingo-eats-baby" case).

If the police bring you in for something and see a note like that on your file, then they're going to assume the worst and try very very hard to get you.

and innocent or guilty, they will eventually get you if you keep hanging around children without being sensible.

So...

Look up the relevant child protection laws for your location and stick with them.

You're not the parent, so you are NOT PERMITTED to assume any parental duties/roles (of which swinging in the manner you described is one). Similarly, you must ensure that you aren't left alone with the children. You must have another adult present.

In the case of female children, you must have a female adult present.

I know that these laws suck and that they're poisoning our relationships with children but they're there for your safety just as much as for the childs.

Don't break off relationships with this parent (unless she's taking the case against you). It sounds like you could be a good father - and this is good practice. Just make sure that until you're "married", you don't act like a father.

BTW: I saw a case on Judge Judy which was quite similar to this and she was really pushy with the "newcomer" about not accepting parental responsibilities without being married. Apparently there are some legal implications in the US.

^^Agrees about MJ being innocent.

Your story reminds me of J.M. Barrie (in that Johnny Depp movie about him, some of the adults were suspicious of him because he played with the children).

I don't really have any advice, just sympathy and hope that you will be ok.

Don't break off the relationship with your friend and don't not ever trust another woman who has kids, you just need to learn the boundaries and what not to do that would be innaproppiate. I was talking to one of my online friends and I showed him this thread and he told me some things I never knew about like don't have a kid sit on your lap if it is not your child and we all know sleeping with kids that aren't yours is innaproppiate. I also knew this since age 12, picking up little girls that aren't yours is sexual harassment.

You just need to make a list about "What not to do to children that aren't yours" so you aren't misunderstood and people aren't assuming you're a pedophile. This list is a start I stated in this post.

Seriously,

Don't get disheartened by all the nonsense surrounding this issue.

The problem isn't that we can't be kids with kids. It's just that we have to be aware of the pre-judging that will inevitably occur.

As loads of people have said, kids lurve autistic adults because we're like adults but so not like 'adults' that they may be used to. We just have to be super-careful to keep in mind that for some reason, non-autistic adults seem to think that adults who enjoy doing kids stuff with kids have an ulterior motive despite the fact that it's genuinely fun for us because we think on a similar level to kids.

They are all wrong but until there is better understanding of autistic adults this prejudice will persist and the only thing we can do is to be aware of it and try to anticipate it!

Sam x

I was thinking about this thread, when I recently visited relatives. My young nieces were, of course crazy about me. Wanted to climb in my lap, touch my face, etc. I would watch their eyes light up when I came in a room, and I knew that my eyes lit up too. Because we could play. Once, I was visiting my sister, and she got an important call. She wanted her daughter to be quiet, so I spent the entire time playing with Barbie dolls, with my niece. I had just as much fun as she did. Of course, if these weren't my relatives, I am sure that I would have caused great concern to the parents. But my family is used to me.

You obviously have something about you that causes people to assume that you are a child molester. Possibly the way you act or talk around children. Most likely this is caused by your autism.

But you are going to have to stay away from children. Even though you aren't doing anything wrong, its bad luck.

Sadly, the root of the problem is usually that mean, suspicious people see people doing bad things everywhere, and that most people think that everyone thinks like them (and some of them think some pretty awful things).

Sorry it turned out like this. The kids probably needed someone like you in their lives.