Social Phobia

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^ Sums me up, I had a youtubechannel once, but some "TUBE" company must have deleted it. I didn't mind, because I was so over-the-limit anxious that someone would judge my ret*d behaviour in front of the camera, I don't behave like that at all in RL, in that I'm almost opposite.

Well, you can use the internet to socialize anonymously (you never need to show your face). I meet alot of my internet friends from a game. I don't have a camera nor want to make youtube videos. My social phobia IRL feels like a lump in my throat blocking me from speaking. I evaluate any forced social interactions (someone else starts the conversation) after and I keep thinking that I did something stupid or wrong or I will be judged. Although avoiding is safe I think its more healthy to face the social situation. I have to bring up courage to even buy things, talk to teachers, etc. Like my friend said today, "You're already in a bad situation socially so you can't get worse so just socialize."Of course he doesn't mean it in a bad way, he is just giving advice.

YouTube dont delete channels without reason. They should notify you if they delete your channel I assume... yeah I know what you mean with opposite behaviour. You somehow interpret yourself diffrent when seeing yourself on video...I dont like it either



Thats my social surviving and exactly what I do here on WP. I would never ever share so much of myself here if the forum had access to my name and face!!



Yeah I know it too but its soooooo convenient to hide as safe... I was diagnosed to have agoraphobia today. No surprise. At least I will do something about my social phobia

I guess becoming so used to giving into your insecurities, one will eventually almost forget what it's like to live without them, and perform the simple tasks which others perform so easily. I'm a little agoraphobic myself xalepax. You are not alone. I'm just interested to know what type of advice your shrink gave you, to help with your agoraphobia?

Hi I wanna blue

Well so far I havent got any clear advices yet. It was just a formal meeting where I had to reply specific questions and this questionare showed agoraphobia as result. The next step is to meet a doctor, I believe it must be a specialist as its a kind of private "clinic". The next step after that is to meet a shrink that is supposed to give concrete advices

Its coming to a point in my life where I can't be bothred with certain people anymore because I don't feel like that I fit in or going in the same direction as them.

I know you probably don't want to hear the 'you're still young yet' speech, but sorry it's the best i can come up with right now. Anyway, SP is the first thing I was diagnosed with, waaaaay back when I was 19 , and I'm right there with you when you say that's it's been a living hell. One thing that has been helpful, was going through circumstances that are ridiculously uncomfortable, like large social gatherings, public speaking, or whatever makes you real uncomfortable. They suck ass at the time, but I've always come out of them feeling a little closer to 'cured'. Desensitized. Each time, the desensitization gradually fades, but not completely. There's always a bit that stays with you, leaving you closer to your goal.

So now we're back to the age thing. It's good that you understand your problem, and if you don't, read until you do. That's the best way to get the ball rolling. Then it's a matter of living life and waiting for yourself to heal/adjust. Yeah I know, sounds easy right? Well, I'm not saying that, because I know it's a huge pain in the ass. The only other bit of advice I can give right now, is try to do some things that'll improve self-confidence, like exercise, education, etc.....

Thanks for the response jb.

My social phobia is pretty bad. Its gotten to the point where when I go into the classroom sometimes feels intimidating. I see everyone else mingling before class. I used to be very clueless about social situations and I spent among time learning whats appropriete and not. With that my social anxiety is starting to intensify because I see in so many ways how Im flawed and I cant free myself of myself torment. The more I think, I dont belong here. I hate never fitting in and always feeling so ackward when Im around a lot of people my age alone.My mentality has been getting so bad lately.

^ I was the same when I was at school especially if I was asked a question by the
teacher, no matter how hard i try i just couldn't fit in which was very frustrating.

Anyone know who the hell we talk to for help? I think my few years with social anxiety made me less annoying to my peers but in return I got social anxiety which is a problem of itself. I know some medications help with anxiety but where do I get some? Who do I have to let know that I have anxiety? My parents, yeah right. I'm still a minor so I don't think I can seek my own medical help, at least I don't know if I can or not.

Well my SP only really became somewhat treated after taking medication for a period. I'm not sure who you can ask for help, but I would recommend seeking it, as it really seemed to destroy my life. You're still young, try to see to it as soon as possible.

I suffer greatly from social phobia. If it wasn't for the internet I don't think I would ever have a way to communicate with people and probably would of committed suicide or something.

School was terrible, job interviews so far have all flopped, I can't get a friend to talk to me. Most old classmates won't talk to me. Its mostly How is life. Good. End conversation. I can't get a response from people old or new. Most ignore my words. I can't even talk to girls in a public place. I just freeze up and nothing comes out at all. SP has ruined my life. There are at least 40 girls that I can remember that might have had a faint interest in me. All throughout my school years. I failed every time to respond to them. Past year I have repeatedly watched all my failures with people in my head like a movie. It just repeats over and over again. Right now I just don't like myself at all. I hope to get new job soon. Make me feel better in some way I believe.

DeadFire87 I feel your pain, and I can relate totally to what you said. My social phobia means that I will probably never meet a girl. Best of luck with the job.

SP is strangling us yes but never say never and dont give up and dont stop believing in your dreams and goals!

You are both younger than me and I can say it gets worse the older you get. So get a grip and dont allow it to have such control over your lives. You have much to live for!

My social phobia was paralyzing when I was young and had no idea how to fit in. Great improvement during my middle years because I just burst in on the scene and took friends hostage and had no idea they didn't want to be there. It's much worse now because I recognize the effect I have on people and I'll abandon them over stupid mistakes before they abandon me. Spend a lot of time thinking I'd be better off with total 100 % isolation and no human contact outside of websites like this one. Then somebody will reach out when I'm not expecting it and I'll reach back for one more try. Question how long I can continue to yo-yo without burn out.