Near meltdown at the grocery store

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By the way, thank you for asking.

PaganMom

There are always a lot of people here. Me, my husband, I have four kids but the oldest is out now, but my kids friends always stay over. My daughters boyfriend is here maybe four nights out of the week, the other nights she's at his house. I'm not talking dropping by. It's staying overnight. Maybe once a week we have a night when nobody is sleeping over. Then there are teenagers who aren't getting along with their parents and they move in for a while, which means I have to talk to their mother and assure them I'll keep an eye on their kid, which I do. One lived with us for two years. There is dropping by going on all day. There are about 30 kids who come here on a regular basis. Really. That many. Most of them don't even knock because they come so often we have told them they don't have to. They just come in. This means I never walk through the house half dressed in search of another shirt or something. Can't do that anymore.

The being quiet is kind of hard to do, because I'm constantly thinking of remarks to make when people are talking. It's very hard not to do that. It doesn't annoy them when I do I don't think. Usually anyway. But since it seems everybody believes I said something I didn't say like THAT to my son's gf, they are all mad at me. Fine then. I'm sitting in the den now online because it's just my husband and younger daughter in here (who btw is the one who told them what I said but she didn't understand how I meant it. I had wondered if my son's gf was really pregnant NOT because I thought she was faking it, but because she has a lot of GYN problems, irregular cycles, never used birth control and never got pregnant. She also has very painful periods. Urine tests can have false positives and negatives easily, from hormonal imbalances which could be caused by many things which would cause her symptoms shes had since puberty. But she took it that I thought she was faking, and nobody will even listen to my explination, so fine). But when my older daughter and her bf get up and come out here to watch tv with my husband, I'll go in my room and read.

PaganMom

Whew. I commend you for holding together even all well as you do. All of that would be *far* beyond my own coping skills and abilities, if I even have any.

Oh, I dont hold it together, hence the big screaming argument Friday night before last. They haven't spoken to me since. I didn't mind the misunderstanding about me saying I didn't know if she was really pregnant or not, that of course she would get mad about if she thought I meant something else and I would have been happy to explain it to her, but saying I act like my own mother in law, who they know I loathe and who loathes me, well that was just uncalled for.

I lose it a lot.

PaganMom

It doesn't bother me that much. They mainly stay in my daughters room downstairs. She has her own door too so they usually come and go from there. My room is all the way in the back of the house. I'm just glad they are popular, because I never was. I can make myself deal with it because of that.

PaganMom