ILoveMusic wrote:
It's quite possible that the best thing right now would be for you to "shake things up" a bit by telling him you want to leave. At least it might help you to feel better by putting your honest feelings out there - and you never know, maybe it will lead him to make a more conscientious effort to work a bit harder at the relationship if he knew you were serious about leaving. If he didn't, at least you would be free to pursue happiness with someone else. It is a very empowering thing to assert your independence and take more control over your life when you're in a bad relationship - and it's certainly a better option than suicide.
This sounds like a very bad idea.
It is not asserting independence if you are bluffing. That is just playing games. The kick is short lived.
She doesn’t want independence she wants more interaction. I do think that genuine alone time to think may help. But she is not wired to be as independent as him, which is exactly the point.
I recommend what I said in my previous point. If someone is depressed it is not a good idea for them to try and social engineer situations, that could lead to them getting more stressed, their priority is with their depression.
02 Dec 2009, 8:47 am
