I think I'm single again

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Thanks for the support. No, he's not always a jerk, thankgod since he's my children's father. That's what makes this so difficult, because I know he's usually a good person, but not with me, not anymore. So I feel like I've lost who he used to be, and now I've basically given up hope of getting that person back.

My anxiety is really screwing with me right now. I generally have anxiety problems, but there worse now, and in the midst of it I start thinking maybe the reason I feel so bad is because I've made the wrong decision. Then the anxiety goes away and I feel OK about breaking up with him. That's the worst thing about anxiety, it dulls my mind so I can't think and because I can't think rationally everything feels like a black hole ready to swallow me up. I'm already on two different meds, is this as good as it gets for me?

The one thing about behavior during a breakup, "Is that it's behavior during a breakup."

He'll stop acting like this, probably within a matter of weeks or months.

People behave badly during breakups, but that doesn't last forever.

You know, my brother (who's my NT translator) says the same thing. He says most people get too tired keeping the angry stubborn act up and eventually resort to reason. I really hope so

He sounds exactly like my children's father. It's difficult being a single parent. It's the hardest thing I have ever done because I ended up going to college/university and working full-time as well. I actually over did it and became very ill. You have to remember to take care of yourself first because if you don't and you fall ill, who is going to be there to take care of the children?

He sounds as if he doesn't want to be there for them which is wrong. It's not fair to you or your children. You're NOT being selfish for wanting to have the time to go to an Aspergers meeting and spend some time with people your age and have a weekend off to rest and just think about yourself for a change. He's the one who is being selfish. He also might be trying to prevent you from being able to date other men.

I hope he does have a change of heart and shares more of the responsibility because it's in the best interest for everyone.

Is this as good as it's going to get for me? I asked that question myself when I went thru the same thing. It's going to take a little while for you all to adjust. When people experience the end of a relationship, it's like experiencing a death and you're going to feel crappy sometimes. But things will become easier especially once both the children are in school and you will get more breaks from constantly being Mommy. You will also have time work and meet new people, make new friends and go out and date again. It gets better with time. Just try not to over do it.

thing about "don't overdo it."

There is a thread on here about midlife as people having a lot of physical issues because of chronic stress.

"Don't overdo it" might mean, "Get a job that allows you to be alone a lot, if you don't already have one."

It's not that you can't work a lot, but if you have to pretend to be NT, too, that's not so good.

He'll stop being so mean, soon.