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I cope by withdrawing from people and focusing on my special interests. I cope by sitting alone and thinking about what makes me happy. I cope by lurking on these forums and occasionally commenting or trying to help other AS individuals.

I do not overextend myself by carefully watching what I say, so I do not slip my weird fascinations and become judged. Answer only what is needed -- yes or no answers preferably. It's a complete juggling act and a full time job watching what I say, because I love to talk and blabber which gets me in trouble. I love to give verbose answers.

I am experiencing a similar hell as yourself. As someone on these forums once said, "I feel like an extrovert in an introvert's body."

I couldn't agree with you more. However, coping skills can be learned and we can choose to do so. It is easier to return to what you know, but if what you know isn't healthy then it's better to make a plan and go elsewhere. We can choose to stay the same or choose to change, but it's important to realize that we are making choices all the time.

It takes a lot of effort to develop a personal philosophy and effective coping strategies because every person is different and has different needs, preferences, etc. Even happiness is subjective. For me, happiness doesn't mean there aren't times of suffering or pain or desire--it's a moving target that changes as I change, constantly in flux. I suspect happiness is one of those abstract terms that means something different to different people. What is your understanding of the term?

As for uncertainty, I typically deal with it using probability estimates and assumed everyone did. No?